Hello Dear One ... Every May I love to re-listen to and re-share this episode on MOTHER LOVE which I recorded in 2017, and the wisdom still stands... and the message still so needed for us all to hear, contemplate and put into practical action. I've updated the start and end with a special reading and practice this year.
What is Mother Love? Mother Love is so much more than we think it is.) So many of us are feeling stretched - being called to make changes, expansions, trust. In times like you need more "mother love" - it's so powerful! MOTHER LOVE does not just come from your birth mother. And since most of us aren't taught what that is or how to source it, I am replaying this Feminine Power Time. If you've never heard it, tune in. If you have, re-listen this is medicine and a message that will bring clarity, confidence and courage to you at this time....
"THERE IS A GREAT MOTHER LOVE AVAILABLE THAT CAN ACT AS THE SAFE AND SOFT HARBOR YOU NEED TO STAND STRONG + FEEL SUPPORTED. IT WILL HOLD YOU, SOOTHE YOU, AND GIVE YOU UNSTOPPABLE COURAGE."
When you read the words ‘mother love’ you likely go right to thinking about the mother who gave birth to you or the mother who raised you. And while that mother definitely has a role to play in our lives, she cannot be our only source of “mother love.”
Mother love is... a specific kind of love that every human being needs – we don’t outgrow the need for it, although we sadly forget how much we do need it.
Mother love is… the deep, all-embracing, all-accepting, nourishing, nurturing, warm, safe, supportive love that soothes the places inside our hearts that feel scared and lonely.
Mother love is… the strong love that we can fall into when we are stressed, stretched, uncertain, and feeling like we just can’t handle what’s happening in our life.
Sourcing Mother Love is not something most of us were taught how to do. In this Feminine Power Time with Christine Arylo: Mother Love: The Feminine Love That Will Hold You Through Transition:
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If you have not gotten your copy of Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World... here's the link - Get a copy and join the women daring to do it differently:
This book is at it's heart mother love ... first advocating for ourselves and those we love and lead to be sustained, nurtured, cared for, safe, supported ... so then we can create organizations, a society, a culture, a world that reflects that for all people and planet.
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Other Links
1. Sovereign Woman. Sacred Relationship. wisdom session. Get access here.
2. Read the full write up and definition of Mother Love on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe and share how you receive Mother Love. https://community.christinearylo.com/posts/mother-love-the-feminine-love-we-need-but-that-cant-come-from-just-one-person
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How do you stay centered, clear, calm and sustained as you go through changes in your life - relationship, career, home, health? Whether you want the change and are intentionally creating it or it's a happening that you didn't ask for but find yourself in, when you can name the change as a 'threshold' you are crossing and moving through elevates everything.
Almost everyone I know if they are aware, conscious and choosing to grow through the catalyzing times we are in, is walking through a threshold crossing. While they are always challenging, they don't have to take you down or drive you to push through or run the other way.
There is wisdom - practices and perspectives - to share and apply now and in the months and years to come to whatever changes and shifts we find ourselves in -- in ways that empower us to be in co creation with the Universe and each other.
Most of us didn't get this wisdom in our traditional education or leadership training. I've crossed thresholds many times (more on the word threshold in the Podcast) and have learned some things I thought might help bring more ease, empowerment, and grace to you.
Wisdom and pratices that seem simple that one could discount them for lack of significance. But in truth, true wisdom is usually stated quite simply but is anything but simple.
In this episode of Feminine Power Time #182: Staying Sustained Through Change: Practices & Perspectives for Making Shifts with More Ease, we will dive into some of these such as:
And also we'll dive into some of the teachings in Overwhelmed and Over It about sustainable change and growth and apply them to whatever current shifts you are going through, including:
And I will walk you through practices to:
Tune in. See you there.
Christine
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Resources
1. Overwhelmed and Over It Book - www.OverwhelmedandOverItBook.com
Elevate the Consciousness and Conversation
1. Choose one wisdom perspective or practice from the podcast and share it with a friend.
2. Come over to the Feminine Wisdom Cafe and share your ideas in the conversation from last week's podcast "What is Sovereignty" -click here.
Self Empowerment.... Be Empowered... Own your Power ... Stand in your power ... these are words that we see and hear alot more these days, but what does embodying our power really mean? What is self-empowerment? What does sovereignty have to do with all of this?
How do you know if you are coming from your pure power rooted in wholeness or distorted power rooted in woundedness? How do you reveal where you are giving your power away - leaking power - in subtle but signifcant ways?
I've been exploring, researching and teaching self-empowerment as one of the 10 branches of self-love for over a decade. I first heard the word sovereignty in 2006 and it rang through my body like a deep truth I knew in my bones, but didn't have a mental understanding of.
Being the wordsmith and wisdom student I am, of course I looked up the current definitions of both - unsatifactory. I started studying power and realized pretty quickly how distorted our cultural concepts and expressions of power are. And I dove deep into where we as humans, especially women and girls, give away our power in unconscious ways. Or express power in distorted ways that actually diminish our influence.
Over the years I have created new defintions of power and sovereignty, practices to strengthen both, and ways to reveal where our leaks and strengths lie.
For starters - here's the definition of self-empowerment
Self-empowerment is choosing to take care of and responsiblity for your life by acting to create the life you really desire, without apology or requiring approval from others.
In this episode of Feminine Power Time, #4 of 4 in our Self Love Series, we'll dive into the top branch of the Tree of Self Love, Self Empowement: Power Leaks, Sovereignty, Embodying Our Pure Power :
I'll guide you through some self-reflection inquiries as well. If you have the Madly in Love With ME book or Overwhelmed and Over It, grab them as I'll be referencing them in our conversation and exploration.
And come over the Feminine Wisdom Cafe where I've posted the full definition of Sovereignty and we're inviting everyone to share what Sovereignty means to them.
See you there!
Christine
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Connect on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe -www.femininewisdomcafe.com
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What does Sovereignty Mean to You?
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Here's the Self Love Tree one more time.
Join Christine Arylo for this Feminine Power Time, POWER PAUSE - HARMONIZE: 4 Inquiries to Shift Your Habits, Choices, & Relationships into Harmony for the Months Ahead. One of the four Power Pauses she shares each year, this one focused on what wise leaders and people do:
When you pause at near the equinoxes and solstices, your internal rhythm aligns with the natural rhythm... you gain the power to reset habits that might have been okay in months prior but need a shift.
And you gain clarity on how to focus your life force so what you spend your time, energy & money creates what you desire.
Power pauses are personal and organizational leadership best practice, a wise way to run your business, organization or team. And I believe a must if you want to stay sustained and sane in a world in which we feel so much pressure to do so much. And then don’t have what we need to sustain ourselves.
Every year I hold power pauses at this 4 key shifting points, the equinoxes and the solstices, March, June, Sept and Dec - within my Feminine Wisdom Way training, some virtually, some weekend retreats and some for companies and organizations.
I do this because this yearly practice of pausing 4x a year I believe is something most of us where not taught how to do, but when we do it, everything in our life works in better harmony. It’s how I run my life, business, partnership, relationships, and grow what is important to me.
Each power pause has a different focus and flavor depending on the time of the year.
In Feminine Power Time, I can’t share with you entire power pause process for March Equinox but I can give you a 50 minute power pause with 4 simple but mighty inquiries - like a mini Harmony Adjustment for your life
Bonus. What is ONE habit or pattern in your morning flow that isn't in harmony to keep doing into this next season? RELEASE this. Then what is ONE habit or pattern you can EMBRACE and place into your morning flow this next cycle?
We don’t give up everything or go militant. We choose a few things to elevate and release, and also receive pleasure too.
Tune in.
Listen to the power pause. Journal on the questions.
Invite a friend to do the Power Pause too and ask each other the questions. And support each other to make soul-aligned, supportive, sustainable choices.
With Great Heart
Christine
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For a visual of the 8 Realms of a Whole Life, from the Overwhelmed and Over It book - its here on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe
https://community.christinearylo.com/posts/12674162
Self-compassion, self-care and self-pleasure are three of branches of self-love that make up the 'heart line.' When these kinds of self love are strong within us, we are stronger and healthier in our hearts - emotionally, physically and spiritually.
With a strong heart line of self-love we are able to be both compassionate and courageous. Able to give sympathy and empathy to others, with healthy boundaries, and without becoming too emotionally entagled that we lose ourselves.
We have the internal foundation to both give and recieve, without guilt. Able to give to and support others and the work and causes we care for, and receive what we need to be sustained and valued in our exchange.
Instead of giving and giving like well that runs dry, we give and receive, so the water keeps flowing. So instead of feeling like we have to sacriifce our souls for work, success, stability or a cause, we feel nourished.
We RETAIN our radiance vs become dried up prunes, burned out lights, and self sacrificing martyrs or machines.
This heart line trifecta is core to our power, our presence and our personal wellness and happiness. But like most of the realms of self-love, few are educated on what self-compassion, self-care and self-pleasure really are. And even fewer are taught how to practically apply this to our lives, relationships, work, and choices.
Which is why in this episode of Feminine Power Time #180: The Heart of Self Love: Self-Compassion, Self-Care & Self-Pleasure (#3 of 4 in our Self Love Series) we will dive into each of these three branches including:
I'll lead you through a meditation for each branch to tune into the ENERGY of these branches and give you a PRACTICE for each. SO we can infuse this into your life now.
The truth is - we can do more for the world and those people and causes we love when we are full in our hearts.
Self sacrifice to the point of making ourselves sick, resentful and giving in ways that are not valued or given a harmonious exchange is a learned behavior. Supported by the burnout matrix.
You can choose to liberate yourself out of the burnout matrix, and in doing so, you unleash more of your radiance to be a light in this world.
Tune in. And then come to the personal wellness and leadership wisdom session - Overcoming Overwhelm - and we'll dive in more.
with heart
Christine
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Wisdom Sessions + Transformational Progams with Christine
1. Free Wisdom Session: Overcoming Overwhelm: Cultivating Sustainability in a World that Needs So Much. RSVP and Receive Access Here.
2. 4-month Transformational Experience: Overwhelmed and Over It: A Path to Sustainable Success. Starts April. Learn more www.OverwhelmedandOverItProgram.com
3. Yoga of Self Love - www.YogaofSelfLove.com
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Here's the Self Love Tree -
What is self-trust? How do you know if your self trust is strong or weak? And how do you strengthen your self-trust? I would love to live in a world in which all people from 11 to 111 knew the answers to these questions... where we were taught the fundatmentals of self trust this from a very young age ... but alas, we are not there yet.
But change starts with each of us, so today we take a deep dive into self-trust, these inquiries and apply this self trust practically to your life now ... where you need it the most.
This episode of Feminine Power Time - "Strengthen Self Trust" is the 2nd in a 4 part series on Self-Love. Self-trust is one of the 10 branches of self-love.
When I created the body of self-love work that breaks self-love down so you can see where you are weak and strong, the metaphor of a tree came through. Self-trust is the trunk of the tree - everything stems from here. Self-acceptance is the root ball. Self-worth the roots.
Self trust is:
Choosing to listen to and follow the guidance of your inner voice, believing you know what is right for you, even when other people think or say otherwise.
Join me for this exploration as we:
* Illuminate the signs of a weak and strong self trust
* How self trust shows up in our careers, relationships and life choices.
* I pinpoint from a self love perspective, what we need to do as adults to regain and rebuild self-trust
* I take you through one of the most powerful self trust processes I created, to bring self love to the places and ways you have not followed and betrayed your inner knowing and guidance ... which when healed, keeps you from making unconscious choices.
If you want to learn more about self-trust, read chapter 8 in Madly in Love with ME and chapter 1 in Overwhelmed and Over It.
A little heads up: Be prepared to connect with yourself at a heart and self honesty level. Nothing to be scared of, going here is where your power and freedom is. Just wanted to let you know we aren't skimming the surface here when we dive into self-love.
I'll share my journey with self-trust from a self-love perpsective too. I wouldn't ask you to do something I have not done myself, more than one time.
With great heart,
Christine
p.s. Come by the Feminine Wisdom Cafe (my private online community) and share your Self Love Promise and Branch for this year.
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RESOURCES:
Embodied Self Love Experiences & Trainings
1. FOR YOURSELF: Make it a year of Self Love - The Yoga of Self Love - receive practices, wisdom & creative exercises, one branch of self love per month www.YogaofSelfLove.com
2. FOR GUIDING OTHERS: Self Love Essentials Professional Training for those who support others. www.SelfLoveTraining.com
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The Self Love Tree
Download a picture of it here
https://christinearylo.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/selflovetree_arylo.pdf
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In 2008, I founded the international Day of Self Love - February 13th - to bring a deeper and practical awareness and understanding to self-love. This was meant not to be one day to celebrate ourselves, but a day to pause and look within at our inner foundation, and reveal what kind of self-love we needed to receive and strengthen this coming year. And then practically choose to do so.
You see, "Do I love myself?" is not a yes/no question. There are areas you are strong and weak in. Areas that need tending THIS year. Self-love, or a lack of it, is at the root of the choices we make everyday, the big life choices, and the way we feel in relationship, career and own skin. Self love is primary to emotional, mental and physical wellness.
Our leadership presence. Our prosperity. Our sense of belonging and being valued. Our thoughts, emotions, health. All linked to self-love.
But most of us were never educated on the different kinds of self-love - what I call the 10 branches of self-love. And in the world of business, money and 'serious' things, self-love is often fluffed and woo wooed away. When honestly if self-love was part of primary education and a sign of a healthy leader, we'd have less narcissitics, less greed, and more of a society where sovereignty and unity could co-exist and healthy inter- connection was the norm.
There is SO much power in exploring and embodying each of the 10 branches of self-love which make up the "Self Love Tree."
Which is why, this month, we'll explore 4 of the primary branches, one at a time, with perspectives, a practice and inquiries to ponder. And then I encourage you to put them to practice to what you are desiring to create or dealing with in your life, career, wellness and relationships.
Today, in Episode 178: Self Acceptance & Self Worth we explore:
Self Acceptance is the base of the ROOT line of the self-love tree, and our bodies. So it informs everything from your self-care to your self-esteem and self-trust.
Tune in.
Try the practices.
Take a self love pulse check and make a self love promise this year.
And exhale - we are in this together.
Big heart,
Christine
p.s. Come by the Feminine Wisdom Cafe (my private online community) and share your Self Love Promise and Branch for this year.
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RESOURCES:
Embodied Self Love Experiences & Trainings
1. FOR YOURSELF: Make it a year of Self Love - The Yoga of Self Love - receive practices, wisdom & creative exercises, one branch of self love per month www.YogaofSelfLove.com
2. FOR GUIDING OTHERS: Self Love Essentials Professional Training for those who support others. www.SelfLoveTraining.com
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The Self Love Tree
Download a picture of it here
https://christinearylo.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/selflovetree_arylo.pdf
Last Feminine Power Time we talked about the "meta" and "collective" - what the themes, energy and patterns are in the larger field as we go into 2022. This gives us wisdom for how to move through this year.
Today, we turn to the "personal" - what are the themes, awarenesses, perspectives and ways of looking at our lives and our choices within them. So we can walk through 2022 centered, sustained, focused on what matters, using this catalytic time for our good and the good of all. Without burning out, running back to normal or missing the possibility.
Tune in for this year’s Feminine Wisdom for the Year Ahead, 2022, Part Two.
I'll share with you a series of "S" themed wisdom and pesronal inquiries that I'm applying myself and using with all the leaders and communities I work with. The intention is to help us:
And I'll share some S themed wisdom bytes you can put in your pocket to guide your choices now and in the months to come.
Simplify.
Stability.
Slow then swift.
Soul-led.
And more.
Tune in with me, Christine Arylo, leadership advisor and women’s leadership and empowerment teacher, as we dive in.
See you there!
Christine
p.s. Come over to the Feminine Wisdom Cafe where women are sharing their dreams for the world and for themselves. We'd love to know and witness yours.
https://community.christinearylo.com/posts/what-daring-dream-do-you-have-for-yourself-for-the-world
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- February 13th - Special virtual retreat -RECEIVE. A love offering for those who support others. RSVP to come.
RESOURCES:
1. Overwhelmed and Over It Book - www.OverwhelmedandOverIt.com
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Every year in January I wait to do this special Feminine Power Time session until the timing feels just right. This year, it was exactly just past the first full moon of 2022 (called "the wolf moon"), in the energy of the phase of the moon cycle all about initiating primal feminine power. Which is not about running into this year from fire like hit-the-ground running energy. Nor about mentally figuring it all out. Nor about waiting around for some new normal to settle in place.
The wolf is a symbol of free untamed feminine power, the teacher who guides through action. It reflects to us the need and desire to maintain our independence and sovereignty while also living and working in our packs, with time to play, create ... and rest.
I’ve been thinking of you all for the past two weeks and what would emerge to be shared on the yearly “Feminine Wisdom for The Year Ahead” episode. I always wait for the wisdom and focus to emerge ... which it did, yesterday during my morning practice.
After weeks of being in my own reflection and visioning process, watching what’s happening in the world, deepening in my own practice and listening for guidance from Wisdom with a capital W, once again, a series of ‘wisdom bytes’ flowed out.
It all popped out like a stew that had been cooking for weeks. That's letting the feminine lead, stillness then swiftness (which is a theme for this year especially, more on that).
Tune in for this year’s Feminine Wisdom for the Year Ahead, - 2022, a yearly occurrence here at Feminine Power Time. It’s not about fortune telling, it’s about reading the signs all around us, feeling the knowings within us, and then being WISE about what is happening in the world and how we desire and choose to show up.
Feminine wisdom teaches us to prepare for the intensity, uncertainty, transformation and change that is just part of how the world is operating right now.
Not to brace yourself for it, but to embrace it, pace yourself through it and cultivate the vitality, resilience and wisdom you’ll need to stay elevated above the fray and the chaos.
This year, we'll do this in a two-part series. Part one focused on the meta and part two the personal.
Tune in with me, Christine Arylo, leadership advisor and women’s leadership and empowerment teacher, as we dive in.
See you there!
Christine
p.s. Come over to the Feminine Wisdom Cafe where women are sharing their dreams for the world and for themselves. We'd love to know and witness yours.
https://community.christinearylo.com/posts/what-daring-dream-do-you-have-for-yourself-for-the-world
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Upcoming Programs , Retreats & Trainings - Learn more
1. EMERGE 4-week Visioning Journey www.EmergeVisioning.com
2. Feminine Wisdom Way 2022 - Vision. Lead. Live. Succeed. the way women naturally work best. Enrollment open throughout January. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com
Free Wisdom Sessions:
1. A Different Way to Dream & Succeed . www.FeminineWisdomSession.com
2. Year End Reflection Ritual & Power Pause www.ReflectionRitual.com
RESOURCES:
1. Overwhelmed and Over It Book - www.OverwhelmedandOverIt.com
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There are many things you could do this year, many things you think you should do, or maybe this year you have no idea what to do!? Or maybe you are feeling like you'd rather just pull the cover over your head.
Don't let the chaos and pressure of the world or the should's of your self-induced pressure and thoughts swirl you up. Instead turn inward, tune into your heart and dare to tap into your deeper wisdom and desires and let those inspire and guide you.
Wisdom teaches us to use the power and practice of "inquiry" to consider the path before moving into action.
Not so we can have it all figured out like an agenda or project plan. But so we can be clear on our intentions, be connected to what's really in right timing, and to see what we can't see with our eyes but can sense with our deeper intuitive knowing ... if we slow down to listen.
Wisdom also teaches us ... the wisdom is within you for your most soul-aligned path ahead, the path that sustains you on all levels - mind, body, heart and spirit. And the portal into that wisdom is not in your mental mind, it's in your heart and body.
Every year I do an episode that takes us through 6 wisdom inquires feel would serve us to contemplate.
How we start the year creates the reality ahead. Use the practice of these six 'wisdom inquiries' so you can stay focused on what truly matters, create the realities for ourselves and the world that align with our deeper truth and desires, and realize sustainable success.
Six is the number that creates harmony.
Every year the inquires are different.
Because every year, we need differently inquiries to lead us to the possibilities we haven't even considered with our limited - often fear reactive - minds.
I comb through the many inquiries we use in the EMERGE Visioning Process to find 6 to "prime the pump" and open your visioning, intention setting and focusing for the year to come.
And this year, a bonus inquiry jumped in! A seventh inquiry. 7 is the number associated with going deeper than we've gone before so we can emerge in a more radiant, whole form. Perfect.
Tune in with me, Christine Arylo, transformational leadership advisor and women’s leadership and empowerment teacher, for episode 175: 6 Inquiries to Tune In & Reveal What Truly Matters to You This Year
See you there!
Christine
P.S. This somatic and intuitive meditation was taped live during the Wisdom Session: A Different Way to Dream & Succeed. To tune into the full wisdom session go to https://christinearylo.lpages.co/a-different-way-to-dream/.
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Upcoming Programs , Retreats & Trainings - Learn more
1. EMERGE 4-week Visioning Journey - starts Jan 9th, you can start any day in Jan. www.EmergeVisioning.com
2. Feminine Wisdom Way 2022 - Vision. Lead. Live. Succeed. the way women naturally work best. Enrollment open throughout January. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com
Free Feminine Wisdom Sessions:
1. A Different Way to Dream & Succeed - Live Jan 5th . Free. RSVP. www.FeminineWisdomSession.com
2. Year End Reflection Ritual & Power Pause www.ReflectionRitual.com
RESOURCES:
1. Overwhelmed and Over It Book - www.OverwhelmedandOverIt.com
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6 Wisdom Inquiries Shared in the Podcast
This year...