Burnout, overwhelm, feeling like we have too much to do with not enough time, resources or support, struggling to find work/life balance is not new, our bodies breaking down because the stress is too much, our minds unable to slow down, feeling like it's all on us.
It's been our reality especially as women for MANY decades. The catalyst of the pandemic, chaos, intense weather, etc are outpicturings that we have hit the boiling point ... as a society, a culture, and individuals.
The truth is:
How we have been imprinted, educated and expected to work is not sustainable, healthy or human.
And when I say work, I don't just mean what you do to receive money. I mean ALL the things you give your life force and time to, including those people, communities and causes you parent, care for and tend to.
Consider this: We are at standing at the place where we can make great shifts in short time spans... if we are willing to take a stand, say NO MORE to what doesn't work and isn't really necessary or healthy, and say YES to do things differently. Even if that means disappointing another, disrupting a pattern, & dismantling structures.
But how do we 'do' that ? Without overwhelming ourselves or just quitting our jobs and lives and creating an even more unsustainable reality?
This is what I have spend the last decade plus researching, living and defining, and what became the foundation for the Overwhelmed and Over It book.
In this three part series, Overworked and Over It: I combed through the book pulled out 3 principles, practices and perspectives that give us the power to spot the B.S. ways of working that burn people and planet out... and then give us the wisdom to do it differently.
These are specific simple but significant acts you can take in your day to day life, now to do what i call "Work Wise. Live Well" ... as you begin to make different choices, you start to see the distorted internal imprints & external norms you've been responding from, and you gain the insight to make wiser choices for yourself, others and your organizations.
In this episode #168 of Feminine Power Time "Overworked and Over It: Stop Filing the Gaps & Giving 110%" we will explore 3 wisdom teachings for working wise + inquiries and practices you can use in your day to day to make different, more sustainable choices:
Wisdom for Working Wise:
Practices and Inquiries:
Tune in. Refer to the Overwhelmed and Over It book for visuals and the wisdom written down for you.
See you there,
Christine
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p.s. Remember to RSVP for the Wisdom Session : Work Wise. Live Well. Live on 11/11 or get the recording.
Here's the link:
https://christinearylo.lpages.co/work-wise-live-well-wisdom-session-with-christine-arylo/
p.p.s. Come over to the Feminine Wisdom Cafe to connect with other conscious courageous women on this topic - taking a stand to do things differently.
Here's the link:
https://community.christinearylo.com/share/ICzZ3ZdHAspOUkyQ?utm_source=manual
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Here's a link to get your copy of Overwhelmed and Over It
Anger and grief are good human emotions. They have the potential to open up so much for us - individually and collectively. Lead to healing, breaking down barriers, breaking through to better realities.
The problem is that most humans weren't taught how to express anger or grief in healthy ways, so it comes out sideways in distorted ways, or it gets stuffed down until we blow up or get sick. Sometimes we are the receiver of that big emotional eruption and other times we are the "unleasher" or "erupter" on someone else.
Join me for this Feminine Power Time conversation - Sacred Rage. Holy Grief. - where we explore perspectives and practices around dealing with the kind of rage and grief that comes from people's/our wound, and how to it differently in ways that lead to wholeness. We will explore inquiries like:
How do we...
See below for some of the practices I mention in the podcast.
I've been contemplating this topic for weeks and weeks, waiting for the right moment to arise. Today it did.
After you listen, share with me one insight you took away that spoke to your heart, or illuminated a wisdom bite for you. (on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe).
With heart,
Christine
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If this speaks to you, so appreciate you sharing it with a friend. Then the two of you can conversate about it too. And support each other in taking your big emotions and using them for healing and creating.
This is a special broadcast of a letter I wrote to from my heart to the hearts of the women around the world when I was writing Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World.
I often write a letter when writing a book, to help me tap into the heart and soul of why i am writing this book, and why I feel so passionate about sharing the perspectives, wisdom and stories enclosed in it.
For this book, that letter became the opening. Today, on the one year anniversary of its publication, I am sharing it FIRST here with you on Feminine Power Time as a special podcast broadcast.
Why? Because every time I sit down to create and tape a Feminine Power Time, I intend to connect with you heart to heart... to be real... to share openly... to bring insight and wisdom... and to be space where you can deeply tap into your deep internal wisdom.
For 5 years, the listeners of this podcast have been with me, here, having these conversations that much of the world is just waking up to.
The world's been crazy for a long time. It's just now, it's catalyzing at warp speed, because we MUST change. People and the planet have been burning out for decades if not centuries.
But the game isn't over.
You and I are the makers, creators, mothers of the world ... we shape culture by how we make our choices and use our voices ... we create reality ... but not if we get swirled into the swirl, can't see the systemically-generated and self-induced burnout games and structures.
AND we need each other, to help us tap into what is real, she what is needed, and then from our deep wisdom, embrace our power to choose differently and say NO MORE to what's not working.
So today... I share this with you...
Get some tea or vino or pelligrino. Or just take a chill moment in the sun. And tune in.
May this release some pressure and create more courage and clarity and connection for you today.
with great heart,
Christine
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p.s. If you have not gotten your copy of Overwhelmed and Over It yet, go to the book page and order a copy for you + a friend
p.p.s If you do have your copy, I'd super appreciate a review to help others find the book. Leave one wherever you bought it or here on Amazon.
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And remember... Join us in the Feminine Wisdom Cafe, where courageous conscious women gather, including a special group exploring and experimenting with the wisdom in this book. Go here to learn more, it's free.
In the third part of our series on Staying Sane in an Insane World, we activate one of the most subtle but absolutely potent powers we have ... the power of inquiry and contemplation.
We are trained in our over culture to value and work with questions and answers to drive to a conclusion, usually as fast as possible. "Time is money." And we are imprinted with a value system that says we must have the answer, if we don't we risk looking a fool, being called out or being discounted.
But operating this way - in a mindset about quick answers vs. contemplation and consideration... in a world that values confidence over curiosity.... keeps us stuck in the consciousness and realities that don't work for us individually or collectively. Unhealthy, insane ways of working, relating and living.
In a wiser, healthy culture, one that values the feminine, we practice the art of inquiry and contemplation to open up possibility and to gain clarity.
For this session of Feminine Power Time I chose 4 inquiries that I use often in making choices everyday. They are the same ones I use when I am working with a leader to unlearn the distorted approach to growth, goal setting and management, and to learn a different, wiser, healthier way of working.
As I lead you through these 4 inquiries, bring a challenge, a catalyst, a situation you are working or that is working you. And we can apply it to inquiries and see what emerges!
Some of what we'll explore:
1. The power of wonder. Inquiry: I wonder...
2. The power of quintessence. Inquiry: What is at the core? What is the essence?
3. The power of seeing beyond your five senses to shift out of fear into a response that leads to harmony and healin. Inquiry: What's real? What's needed? What do I need?
4. The power of choosing to move forward consciously vs waiting for change to kick you in the butt. Inquiry: How do we/I move forward from here?
See you there!
Christine
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p.s. Come over to the Feminine Wisdom Cafe to get connected into conversation and exploration with other wise, courageous women daring to do things differently.