How do we breakthrough patterns and imprints that we are ready to release? What are the practices? What works? How does this invisible transformation actually work to make shifts in the material world?
Consider this: Change takes place over time, but if we can't see the progress, we don't receive the energy we need to stay devoted and focused.
Good news - choosing to engage in what I call "Sacred Transformation" - yours and the worlds, isn't about waiting until all things are perfect and the way you'd like them to be ... that's a path for suffering for sure!
Sacred transformation - when you put the word sacred in front of transformation here's what you get: "change devoted to / for the sake of creating wholeness, without violence to self or others, done with respect." This is a way of working with and breaking through long-held pattern in way we can expereince, receive and I dare say enjoy (even in the struggle) all along the way.
As we see the shifts happening in little ways... we start to feel them in bigger ways... the dense shadow transforms with gratitude into a lighter brigthter frequency that maintains it's depth (and darkness now rooting in wholeness).... and we gain the energy to continue evolving and elevating.
Tune in to #2 of 3: 3 Pratices for Breaking Through Patterns Ready to Release.
And join us for this year's annual 40-Day From Burnout to Balance Practice - www.burnouttobalancepractice.com
Here are some of the practices for Sacred Transformation I'll share + here for you to explore.
See you there!
Christine
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Shadow patterns. Self limiting imprints. Sabotaging cycles and habits. That we just can't shake or seem to breakthrough.... or maybe we just haven't had the holsitic approach and wisdom and tools to get to the roots of where the "shadow frequency" keeps us stuck in cycles that no longer serve us. Or maybe we've been working these patterns for decades, and we are now ready to truly break free + breakthrough.
In this series: The Practice of Breakthroughing Patterns We No Longer Need, the last in our 8th season, we will take a 3-part journey to give you insight, wisdom and tools to:
Consider this: You can't change what you cannot see or don't have language for. And if you are not consciously working with the unconscious imprints within you, they are working you!
So let's embrace our power to transmute (elevate the frequency of) the patterns that may have served us at one time... and are not ready to be composted, with gratitude.
Tune in to #1 of 3: How to Reveal the Invisible Patterns Within You Ripe for Breakthrough where we set up the series + start to illuminate where to start looking for the patterns ready to come up and out of the shadow.
And join us for this year's annual 40-Day From Burnout to Balance Practice - www.burnouttobalancepractice.com
Here are some places to start looking
See you there!
Christine
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Join Christine Arylo for this Feminine Power Time, 4 Inquiries to Get Your Habits and Choices into Harmony for the Months Ahead. One of the four Power Pauses she shares each year, this one focused on what wise leaders and people do:
1. Illuminate the imbalances in the different realms of your life - so they don't become drama, disease, disaster and distress
2. Shift habits and patterns in your daily life that might have been aligned before, but need to shift as you head into this next cycle
3. Focus on and committ to the intentions, projects, relationships that are ready and ripe to grow and prosper
4. Set a new rhythm for your day and week that supports and sustains where you are now, and what you are creating and managing these next three months, into June Solstice.
When you pause at near the equinoxes and solstices, your internal rhythm aligns with the natural rhythm... you gain the power to reset habits that might have been okay in months prior but need a shift.
And you gain clarity on how to focus your life force so what you spend your time, energy & money creates what you desire.
Power pauses are leadership best practice, a wise way to run your business, organization or team, and I believe a must if you want to stay sustained and sane in a world in which we feel so much pressure to do so much. And then don’t have what we need to sustain ourselves.
Every year I hold power pauses at this 4 key shifting points, the equinoxes and the solstices, March, June, Sept and Dec - within the Feminine Wisdom Way Wisdom School, some virtually, some weekend retreats and some for companies and organizations in which we do "Cyclical Strategic Planning."
I do this because this yearly practice of pausing 4x a year I believe is something most of us where not taught how to do, but when we do it, everything in our life works in better harmony. It’s how I run my life, business, partnership, relationships, and grow what is important to me.
Each power pause has a different focus and flavor depending on the time of the year.
In Feminine Power Time, I can’t share with you entire power pause process for March Equinox but I can give you a 40 minute power pause with 4 simple but mighty inquiries - like a mini Harmony Adjustment for your life
1. Look at your sacred work and career - what is in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention?
2. Look at your relationships - what is in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention ?
3. Look at your health, wealth, home - what in harmony? What is out of harmony? What is calling for your attention now?
4. What if you chose to create from a place of joy? What would JOY feel like in you or for you?
Bonus. What is ONE habit or pattern in your morning flow that isn't in harmony to keep doing into this next season? RELEASE this. Then what is ONE habit or pattern you can EMBRACE and place into your morning flow this next cycle?
We don’t give up everything or go militant. We choose a few things to elevate and release, and also receive pleasure too.
Tune in.
Listen to the power pause. Journal on the questions.
Invite a friend to do the Power Pause too and ask each other the questions. And support each other to make soul-aligned, supportive, sustainable choices.
With Great Heart
Christine
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Go Deeper. Get Connected. Receive Wisdom, Structure & Support.
1. From Burnout to Balance 40-Day Practice - www.BurnouttoBalancePractice.com
2. Connect on the Feminine Wisdom Cafe - www.femininewisdomcafe.com Join the conversation!
3. Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World www.OverwhelmedandOverit.com
4. Re-Defining Relationships Podcast - Ep 149 https://christinearylo.com/2021/03/shift-your-relationships-2-of-3/
At the root of all the over-giving and over-self-reliance and much of the burnout and imbalance we experience is a big old old root ball called "OVER RESPONSIBILITY."
We've been imprinted and conditioned by our society and family systems to take OVER Responsibility for the needs of people, projects, and the planet - and we have willingly put way too much on our shoulders and backs, often as an unconscious way to deal with our fear, feelings of being undervalued, and not enough (no matter how outwardly successful things may look).
Consider this: What might have been in alignment to take responsibility for or embrace ownership of as your part, may not be in balance now or going forward.
Wisdom: The systems (both those you create, and those you work and live within) will take everything you give them, and there will still be more to give.
So... until we take a stand of self-advocacy + stop filling the gaps and taking more and more of the burden and responsibility, there is no incentive for anything to change ... in your work, team, family, friends, marriage, projects, even the things you care deeply about on the planet.
Which is why we will dive deeper in Ep 235: Releasing OVER-Responsibility. Embracing Enough. (#3 of 3 in Burnout to Balance Series). Where are you taking OVER responsibility for:
And then go deeper to reveal...
Then we end with a two ways to make it practical in your life now ... see wisdom inquires below. Tune in!
With heart
Christine
p.s. TWO REQUESTS to help share the wisdom and connect with others.
-- Share this episode with a friend and share the ways you've stepped into OVER Responsibility. Then support each other to get into balance.
-- Leave a review with words that share why you listen or what others could expect. Thank you
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Action : To balance the imbalance -- What can I Start? Stop? Shift?
Practice: Self-Sustainability Stands
I consider what is needed and what I have to/desire to give before I proceed.
If the support and space is not there, I am not moving forward at full-speed.
I stay in co-creation to reveal and proceed on the wise, harmonious path.
I stay present to the real needs and stay focused on my part.
I remember Grace is at the center of all challenges.
I glide from Grace. I move from strength.
Many of us operate like banks that give more withdrawls than deposits, resulting in imbalances in our relationships, wellbeing, money, jobs, businesses and projects that lead to undue suffering, struggle, and sacrifice.
We OVERgive - time, energy, resources, care, and mindshare -- to projects, people, our passion and our purpose. We UNDERReceive the time, energy, resources, care and mindshare we need and desire. As a result, eventually we burnout, become resentful, get sick and discouraged, or quit.
We don't SEE the imbalance or the ways we OVEReffort, work, extend, etc. until we get to the drama, distress or dis-ease.
One of the breakthroughs I discovered in all my research around burnout and sustainable success and wellbeing is that we don't have to wait until the extreme imbalance hits our bodies, beings, bank accounts, relationships or brains. We can use the power of Cyclical Living to pause (usually around March Equinox) and take a look around our life, work, relational, & wellbeing design, illuminate the imbalances, and then take simple but significant steps to make shift happen.
Wisdom: If you can reveal the specific ways you overgive, you become empowered to shift the imbalances.
Which is what we will do together in this Ep 234: Where Are You OVERGiving & UNDERReceiving? (#2 of 3 in Burnout to Balance Series). Where are you:
And then go deeper to reveal...
I do this survey of the landscape of my life, projects, relationships, purpose and work every year, because every year there is a new insight and something new to work with that supports me to do and see things differently. Tune in!
With heart
Christine
p.s. TWO REQUESTS to help share the wisdom and connect with others.
-- Share this with a friend and share your OVERgiving Imprints. Then you can support each other by giving each other permission to take the action that gets your giving and receiving into balance.
-- Leave a review with words that share why you listen or what others could expect. Thank you
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Self esteem, self confidence, ability to take care of oneself, sovereignty, self sufficient ... these are all good things to possess and embody. Monikers of internal strength. However, when one thing become over-used or valued, or the other side of the spectrum isn't present, things get out of whack, our lives and bodies become imbalanced, and we get stuck in situations and chronic challenges that keep us in survival or stress mode.
Consider this: "We have become so self-sufficient as self-empowered humans that we have become overly self-reliant."
Most people I encounter suffer from this invisible dis-ease of Over Self Reliance, we feel it but don't have the words to see it, and therefore transform it. We become so used to doing whatever needs doing, we don't pause to consider what help we need to do it. We don't consider if we don't have the resources we need, maybe we shouldn't take it on. We've grown so accoustomed to fight for what we need or just barely scrape by that we've gotten used to making do and doing more ourselves.
And honestly, there have been many times you and I have needed support or help, and it just wasn't there. That has been our shared reality. Yet, we are each being invited to shake off the over-self-reliance to find a more balanced exchange ... even if we cannot see how that is possible, yet.
Ask yourself: Where may I be operating from over self-reliance? One I may have needed before, but that now, at this phase in my reality, is not serving me?
WISDOM: Where you are OVER self-reliant, you are also UNDER supported, UNDER cared for and UNDER connected.
Today we kick off a series I've named From Burnout to Balance ... to illuminate the invisible ways we are operating like banks giving more withdrawls than receiving deposits, resulting in imbalances that lead to undue suffering, struggle, and sacrifice.
We start with Ep 233: Goodbye OVER Self-Reliance where we dive into:
I will also walk you through inquiries to get clear on where over self-reliance is impacting you. Together we can all release this generational pattern and find the new ways to create relationships and realities that by nature create harmony and balance. So your radiance, briliance and light is supported for many years to come.
See you there,
Christine
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Last Feminine Power Time we talked about the "meta" and "collective" - what the themes, energy and patterns are in the larger field as we go into 2024. This gives us wisdom for how to move through this year.
Today, we turn to the "personal" - what are the themes, awarenesses, perspectives and ways of looking at our lives and our choices within them. So we can walk through 2024 centered, sustained, focused on what matters, using this catalytic time for our good and the good of all. Without burning out, running back to normal or missing the possibility.
Tune in for this year’s Feminine Wisdom for the Year Ahead, 2024, Part Two. Find & Keep Your Shine in the Stretch.
I'll share with you a series of themed wisdom and inquiries + practices that I'm applying myself and using with all the leaders and communities I work with.
I will also take you through some embodied integration of the wisdom, so it really lands in your body, being and brain.
Here are some of the Wisdom Pearls you can put in your pocket to guide your choices now and in the months to come - use these proactively + also in the moments when you get the internal wobbles, or the external world or circumstances threaten to pull you into the swirl.
Themes
See you there!
Christine
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Every year in January I wait to do a special Feminine Power Time that looks into the year ahead - to give us wisdom, insight, focus and practices for the now, and what's coming next.
2024 is an 8 year - connected to the energy of Internal Strength + Shining our Light while making sure we are deeply rooted into what keeps us centered, stable, vibrant and aligned. It's also a wood Dragon year - which signals transformative growth and elevation, supported by the feminine (water) and strong natural structure (earth). These archetypes + what the natural cycles are indicating + the commonalities I am sensing form the themes, focuses and inquiries I'll share with you.
Tune in for this year’s Feminine Wisdom for the Year Ahead - in two parts. Part 1 focusing on giving you insight into the bigger meta themes + powerful inquiries you want to be asking yourself so you co-create a reality that keeps you centered, aligned, radiant and stable as you let go + grow. Episode #231: Finding Your Strength in The Stretch.
Wisdom to Consider: Stability & safety cannot be created in the mind. Stability & safety can come through the body, which then informs and calms the mind and heart.
Note: If you are listening to this later, no worries, it is still all relevant. It's about reading the signs all around us, feeling the knowings within us, and then being WISE about what is happening in the world and how we desire and choose to show up.
Themes Emerging as we Find Our Strength in the Stretch.
Tune in with me. Bring paper to write the themes & Wisdom inquiries to contemplate (also posted below).
See you there!
Christine
p.s. CREATE CONNECTION + ELEVATION --> Share this podcast with a Friend or partner. Use the inquiries below to gain clarity on what will support you each to find your strength in the stretch.
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1. Feminine Wisdom Way 2024 - Vision. Lead. Live. Succeed. the way women naturally work best. Two ways to participate. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com
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1. What parts of me or ways I operate need to be let go or shapeshiftd so I can evolve & elevate?
2. What can I lean into to keep me stable as I stretch to grow & let go?
3. What support & structure can I root into to cultivate harmony within me, so I stay centered mind, body, heart and spirit this year?
4. Where am I still trying to do it on my own? What actions could I take or practices could I put into place to strengthen my connection?
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There are many things you could do this year, many things you think you should do, or maybe this year you have no idea what to do!? Or maybe you are feeling like you'd rather just pull the cover over your head.
Wisdom teaches us to use the power and practice of "inquiry" to consider the path before moving into action... which results in more easeful effort, sustainable success + fluid efficiency (plus delight, which we need during challenging times, to keep us going!)
One way you can do this is the Year-End Power Pause - taking the full month of January to 'tune in' - feel, sense, tap into intuition and the heart -- to find clarity on your intentions, what's in right timing, and what support & structure you need to receive for the coming year.
If we want to access Wisdom vs. just more mental ideas, we need to FEEL not THINK our way forward. CONSIDER THIS: Your mind can only create what it's done or seen before. If we want things to be different, we have to go deeper - into our hearts, bodies, and "subtle energy" realms.
In January, I always do a Power Pause episode that takes us through a series of wisdom inquires to contemplate. This year we will use 2 inquiries, and use them to tune into the 4 realms of your whole life.
Every year the inquires are different, because every year, we need different inquiries to lead us to the aligned possibilities and most supported actions.
I comb through the inquiries we use in the EMERGE Visioning Process + the women's leadership councils, to find the ones to open your visioning, intention setting & focusing for the year to come.
Tune in for episode 230:Year Start Power Pause: Tune into What Matters Most & Where the Momentum Is.
See you there!
Christine
>>p.s. BE AN ELEVATOR, SHARE THIS PODCAST WITH ONE PERSON -- Just share, or dare create connection by 'doing' the inquiries together.
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PROGRAMS, RETREATS & TRAININGS
1. EMERGE Visioning Journey - www.EmergeVisioning.com
2. Feminine Wisdom Way 2024 - Vision. Lead. Live. Succeed. the way women naturally work best. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com
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Purposeful Patience. What is it? How can we work with it? And why is it something you might benefit from putting into practice in how you approach how you go about achieving your goals + bringing your ideas, desires and projects into fruiition + creating a consistent sense of wellbeing, even during intensity and uncertainty? Just that :)
For the past two years I have been practicing Purposeful Patience. It was the theme and mantra in 2022. Each year I/we choose/receive a yearly theme/centerpoint in the Emerge Visioining Process - like "The Year of Purposeful Patience" or "The Year of Embodying Radiant Grace." (2021) or "Creating & Receiving from Momentum" (2023)
I decided to replay this episode of Feminine Power Time: 200: Purposeful Patience: Practicing the Ease Over the Rush, because I needed it again this year ... and I thought you might benefit as well.
I love the practice of choosing a centerpoint and over-arching theme and then working with it intentionally all year. It becomes a guidepost and a portal into deeper wisdom that can support us to create realities that are more aligned with our design and desires. If you stick with it as an active practice, by the end of the year, you have SO much more embodied wisdom, trust and insight on how to do things differently.
Somethings to know about Purposeful Patience.
Purposeful patience is not sitting around waiting for life to happen. It's not a platitude like "Patience is a Virutue."
Purposeful patience is a co-creative choice to live in alignment with the natural flow and unfoldment of your life, purpose, projects, and processes.
The practice of purposeful patience reduces anxiety, the wasting of resources and time, and the self-inflicted pressure that stresses our minds, bodies, hearts, and spirits.
Consider this: Would you more ease (comfort and convenience) or more rush (haste, progress with speed and violence), hustle (shake, push, shove), or busy (meddlesome, toil) in your life this next year?
Here's some of what we'll explore:
A few pearls of wisdom to play with and try on:
And two co-creative practices:
Enjoy playing with purposeful patience in your life - love to hear what you learn.
See you there
Christine
p.s. ACT of ELEVATION >> SHARE this podcast with one other person. Invite them to PLAY the I WONDER game (which i share at the end of the podcast)
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Resources Mentioned
1. Overwhelmed and Over It Book - www.OverwhelmedandOverit.com
2. Gene Keys and Richard Rudd - www.GeneKeys.com
3. The Lost Track of Time by Paige Britt - https://www.paigebritt.com/read-my-books