There is SO much you could do the rest of the year, so much and so many you could give to, but what really matters to you??

One of the smartest things we can do at the mid year point is to pause, reflect, realign and redesign what we are going to focus our life force, resources and time on. This is true for how you run your work life - business, team, organization, career, classroom, etc. And how you run your personal life - wealth, health, home, relationships. For SO many reasons. 

This is what I call taking a Power Pause. It's a feminine wisdom way practice and a feminine leadership success principle. It's how we make sure we create realities that are both successful in what we desire to create and cause AND that are sustainable. 

It's also a best practice for getting out of overwhelm and the feelings that you are never doing enough or have enough. 

I've been doing Power Pauses myself for a decade and every year at this time I teach mid year power pauses, which I call FLOW for focus your life force on what matters, in many different forms. A virtual program/retreat, in person retreats and for women's leadership groups and teams within organizations. 

For you beloved Feminine Power Time listener, 4x a year I do these special Power Pause episodes that include 6 inquiries that are like a Power Pause appetizer. They give you a taste of the full process, and enough of a taste to give you some wisdom bytes about what you truly desire this coming year. 

In this episode, "POWER PAUSE: It's Mid-Year, Time to Reflect & Redirect: 6 Inquiries to Get Focused On What Really Matters to You the Rest of the Year" I will share with you

• How to make sure all parts of your life get love and attention, so you don't end up lopsided, out of balance, or giving up what really matters. 
• Why our productivity, happiness and impact increases when we work with the natural flow of the earth

And I will take you on a guided journey to:

• CELEBRATE & ACKNOWLEDGE all you have done all ready this year! So you feel like you have done enough
• GAIN CLARITY ON WHAT TRULY MATTERS TO YOU - so you make space for what you really want
• FOCUS YOUR LIFE FORCE NOW so come next year, what you desire is coming into form
• CREATE SPACE by letting go of what's not working or needed, or by moving things to 'maintance mode".

In the Feminine Power Time, I'll share 6 inquiries, which I also listed below. I invite you to journal on them. Invite a friend or your partner out to dinner to share about them. And then if you want to really receive the benefit of the mid year Power Pause, take the online version, you can do at your own pace or join me at one of the in person weekends or evening workshops.

INQUIRIES:

1. Celebrate and acknowledge one thing you have done this year. Acknowledge one way you have made a difference in a persons life this year.

2. What would you love to have the space to do this year? 

3. What would you like to be true by next year?

4. What has the potential to flourish if you focus on it?

5. What needs to be let go? Composted.

6. What can you put on maintenance mode to make space to grow other things? 

For more on working with Christine 

1. FLOW Mid Year Power Pause - do in June or July to get focused on what matters - www.FlowPowerPause.com  Do from home. 

2. Feminine Wisdom Way - 6-month feminine wisdom training includes Power Pause, which is the path of living, leading and succeeding in a way that supports you to achieve what matters AND be sustained. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com  We only open enrollment in January or June/July for this. 

3. Feminine Wisdom Weekend Retreat - Kripalu - July 19-21 www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 

4. The Path of Self Love Teacher Training - Kripalu - July 21-26 www.SelfLoveRetreat.com 

For Other Events in Seattle area, go to www.ChristineArylo.com  

Our human heart needs love to thrive just like our lungs need oxygen to survive. We are taught to be strong, have self esteem and project confidence. We desire to have meaningful ‘relationships’ in both our ‘romantic’ life and ‘friend’ life. But most women I know are lacking the connection, support, intimacy, affection, and acknowledgment they need and desire in both areas of their life.

Why?

We are weak receivers. Our capacity to receive the love, support, care, intimacy - aka your Love Quotient - is low. So even if the love and connection comes, you don’t actually let it in, really.

We’ve had to protect ourselves and so have built walls around us or become like teflon. So the connection cannot really get through.

We are so busy doing, we don’t have the space for true connection.

And more…

In this Feminine Power Time, "Receive More Love, Connection, & Support in Your Relationships", #2 in our series called OPEN TO RECEIVE, Christine Arylo dives into the realm of intimate relationships. Your life partner relationship and your sisterhood and deep soul family.

Tune in to reveal and become more aware of:

• Where and how you are blocking the love, support, connection, intimacy, acknowledgment, affection you desire
• Signs you are blocking love and support
• Your specific self-sabotaging love strategy for protecting yourself - which is repelling the connection you desire
• Simple but might practices for opening yourself to receive more connection, support, care, love, community
• 4 inquires to take into your life laboratory and gain more self awareness to how you are pushing away that which you desire in your relationships
• How you show up in your friendships connect to how you show up in your romantic relationships
• How your relationships - or lack of - affect your success in your career and work life 

Most of all come to press a pause on all the pressure you put on yourself to achieve in your career or to take care of others …. and be honest that you desire more love, connection and support in your life.

This episode of FemininePower Time is a choice to create space for what truly matters to your heart. That doesn’t make you weak. it makes you wise and a woman.

Wisdom Inquiries

Consider the relationships you desire - in your beloved partnership life and in your sisterhood (for women), brotherhood (for men) or soul circle for any gender. Notice what you desire. And what is true now.

1.   What am I protecting myself from?

2.  What strategies am I employing to protect myself?  Over protecting? Over giving? Walls around my Heart? Teflon affect?

3. What opens my heart?

4. What do I desire to receive in my beloved partnership? in my soul circle?  Connection? Camaderie? Intimacy? Recognition? Acknoweldgement? Affection?

Then go into your life and notice when you are contracting away from the love,  and when you are expanding.

Choose to expand your love quotient - use the mantra I OPEN TO RECEIVE!

For more on working with Christine

1. FLOW Mid Year Power Pause - do in June or July to get focused on what matters - www.FlowPowerPause.com  Do from home. 

2. Feminine Wisdom Way - 6-month feminine wisdom training includes Power Pause, which is the path of living, leading and succeeding in a way that supports you to achieve what matters AND be sustained. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com  We only open enrollment in January or June/July for this. 

3. Feminine Wisdom Weekend Retreat - Kripalu - July 19-21 www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 

4. The Path of Self Love Teacher Training - Kripalu - July 21-26 www.SelfLoveRetreat.com 

SAVE THE DATE - 

Choosing ME & WE 40-Day Practice 

Cultivate the Loving, Supportive Relationships You Desire & Deserve

Starts August 1st 

How do you achieve what you desire in your work and career, and receive the financial flow you need without driving, striving, pushing, and working so much your life gets out of whack? Or you feel depleted because you are giving, working and doing so much, but not receiving the money, support, space, time, appreciation and recognition desire and deserve?

We have been bred to be strong achievers and self less care givers, but few of us have been taught how to be strong receivers. We've been taught to be ambitious in order to be successful, so we approach our work, career and businesses like a racehorse with a strong desire for success and achievement. But even if we get 'there' - it doesn't feel like enough. We cannot receive it. 

A big part of my work in teaching feminine leadership and living and leading the feminine wisdom way is in teaching and living myself the feminine super power of RECEIVING.

A lack of receiving is at the root of all burnout, overwhelm, self sacrifice, overworking, over giving, feeling dissatisifed in your work, relationships and making self sabotaging choices about what you consume.

So... I thought we should dive into RECEIVING. 

This three part series of Feminine Power Time is called OPEN TO RECEIVE. 

In this first Open to Receive episode: 95: Achieving Success + Receiving What You Need in Your Work and Wealth we:

• Reveal the difference between ambition and achieving and why ambition is not what you want to focus on.
• Explore how you can develop a strong capacity to receive what you need and achieve your purpose/dream/etc. without sacrificing yourself
• Do a short but mighty meditation to explore what you desire to receive in your work and wealth NOW and how you might be blocking receiving it
• How to clear about what is really driving you - are you striving from your ego or a love crack? Or acting powerfully from your strong whole self? 
• Practices for getting clear on what you desire to achieve in your work this second half of the year and then OPEN to receive it
• How to work with the Universe so that you can relax control and open to receive more support and what you need in your work 

Tune in.

And come back for the next OPEN TO RECEIVE session, focused on opening to receive the love, support, connection you desire in relationship. 

Draw the Feminine Leadership Power Spectrum I gave you in this session for Receiving and Achieving. 

Tune into the Overwhelmed and Over It Series if you missed it. 

And to PRACTICE receiving in really practical ways you can use to focus your energy and time and money in your work, and receive what you need come to these:

1. FLOW Mid Year Power Pause - do in June or July to get focused on what matters - www.FlowPowerPause.com  Do from home. 

2. Feminine Wisdom Way - 6-month feminine wisdom training includes Power Pause, which is the path of living, leading and succeeding in a way that supports you to achieve what matters AND be sustained. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com  We only open enrollment in January or June/July for this. 

3. Feminine Wisdom Weekend Retreat - Kripalu - July 19-21 www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 

4. The Path of Self Love Teacher Training - Kripalu - July 21-26 www.SelfLoveRetreat.com 

As we approach the mid year point, ask yourself how is the pace and rhythm of your life working for you? Are you focused on what matters? Do you even have the space to focus on what matters? The truth is the swirl of the world & the pace of the systems you work in aren't going to slow down... but you do have the power within you to set the rhythm of your life differently.

But... "You only discover balance in your life when you learn to trust the flow of the ancient rhythm" - john O'Donohue. 

What does that mean? I will share more with you...  

I broadcast this episode the last two years at this same time, and decided to share it again because as I listened to it myself today I was inspired by what I said. I couldn't say it better a second time. 

So using two feminine leadership principles I'll share at the start of our conversation, I share this timeless wisdom with you for this time now. Tune in xoxo.

About this Feminine Power Time with Christine Arylo:

We lead crazy paced lives in part because we have made the unconscious choice to allow the rhythm of our life to be dictated by the pace the patriarchy and over culture has set - keeping us frenzied, fragmented and not focused on what truly matters.

And there is another choice...

Feminine wisdom shows us how to be in the world without being of the world, by taking the powerful act to consciously set the patterns and rhythms of days, weeks, months and years in a way that creates harmony, not havoc.

This was originally the third episode in the "Breaking Through the Myth of Balance" Series, as we illuminate a different way to live - so we can focus on what matters, be the most powerful presences of change, without exhausting ourselves and our resources including:

• Indigenous, feminine and yogic wisdom for tapping in to the natural order of the cosmos and the earth to create a more natural order and flow to your life
• How to structure your days, weeks, months and year differently and with intention to create more space for what matters and more space for you
• Fuel your work and create the space to bring the projects you desire to bring into form using the 4 Feminine Super Power turns of the Year
• What bio-dynamic farming, business theory and ancient wisdom all agree on regarding the rhythm we need to lead our lives with success
• The Feminine Super Power of FLOW + Using the Power of Moonifesting - and how you can use it to get what matters done 

Join me to make this real and practical in your life:

1. FLOW Mid year power pause and virtual retreat - Focus Your Life Force on What Matters www.flowpowerpause.com 

2.  East Coast power pause and Feminine Wisdom Weekend at Kripalu July 19-21 - www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com

3. Path of Self Love Training and Retreat at Kripalu in July - www.SelfLoveRetreat.com 

4. Seattle Power Pause - July 9th - https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/events/9152-flow-2019-part-3-of-our-power-pause-series-mid-year-intentions

5. The Feminine Wisdom Way Training and Sisterhood - www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

For information on personal mentoring with Christine, email Sarah Mardell at Sarah@Arylo.com 

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Wisdom Inquiries:

1. What would I love to have the space to create? birth? experience? do? this year but I never seem to have the time or space for?

2. What support do I need to create the space for what you want to create?

Wisdom Bytes:

"When we try to do too much and too fast, we exhaust ourselves, our time, our money and we do not have enough of what we need."

"Organizations often try to do too much and too fast so they burn out their employees. We have to ask ourselves why are we driving and striving so hard? What is sustainable growth? And when will we give up the dominate the world culture as normal or acceptable."

"There is something deeper within you that wants the space to create or express. You have the power within to restructure your weeks and days. You cant make more time but you can create the space."

"It is a daring act to choose to live within a different structure than the one you've been conditioned to believe is normal. If you get into the flow of the natural cycles and deepen into the roots of mother nature, and allow the space for grace to come in, the path ahead will become illuminated."

Are you receiving the support, love and care you need? Are you receiving more than you are giving? Do you feel held by the Universe? Do you feel like you can let go and it won't all fall apart? Most of us don't. We are strong achievers and self less care givers, but we suck at receiving. 

At the root of all the burnout, self sacrifice and overwhelm are the ways in which we are blocking what we actually desire or need to receive. 

"Opening to Receive" is a practice I believe we all need in our regular rotation... it's too easy to push away the support we need, not ask for what we need, or try to do too much on our own.

Do you even know what receiving really is?? 

There is lots to say about receiving, but rather than talk about it, as an end to our 3-part series on Overwhelmed and Over It, I wanted to give you an experience to OPEN TO RECEIVE... more of whatever it is you need. A meditation for receiving more support, connection and trust 

An experience that would help you release the blocks you have in place to receiving that you likely don't see.

And an experience that would give you the feeling of some of the specific ways in which we feel when we are fully receiving, such as:

I AM HELD.
I AM VALUED.
I AM SUPPORTED.
I AM MET.
I AM CONNECTED.

I invited a special guest to lead the meditation, my partner Noah Martin, a powerful meditation guide and relationship and partnership advisor and coach. He really gets how to work with the heart and energy fields to open us to receive.

Find a place you can be still. 

Bring whatever blocks you are feeling to receiving what you need and, desire. 

And just experience the meditation. 

With the intention that you open to receive. Even if you don't know what that truly means. 

xo

Christine

For More with Noah 

1. Check out his podcast Meditations by Noah 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/meditations-by-noah/id1456311845

2. Tune into his free class on "Finding the Good Ones" - for those who desire to receive more in their romantic relationships - register at www.DreamPartnerships.com 

Open to Receive More With Christine

1. Mid Year FLOW Power Pause - www.Flowpowerpause.com 

2. The Feminine Wisdom Way - www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

3. Overwhelmed and Over It! A Path to Liberation
4 Month Transformational Experience
www.OverwhelmedandOverIt.com  

*Reposted as previous post only had 1/2 the podcast :) We women have been trained to operate like banks - where we give give give withdrawls all day long, but never take in deposits. Result? We bankrupt ourselves. We've been raised to be strong achievers and self-less care givers, but not strong receivers. 

We push away support when it shows up.

Deflect compliments.  Accept working 60-80 hours a week as normal, and will even skip lunch, going to the bathroom, drinking water just so we can keep pushing through.

We give to our families and friends, even when we can't afford to give the energy, time, effort, money.

We need a new equation that empowers us to GIVE AND RECEIVE. Which I have.

But first, we have to get real about WHY we OVER GIVE. 

The reasons we sacrifice and sabotage ourselves are rooted deep in our hearts - where the feelings and fears we'd rather not feel live. #truth 

The path to liberating yourself and others out of the ways of working and living that lead to burnout and self sacrifice is through your heart. #wisdom

One of the reasons we stay stuck in these unsustainable realities is we are fine talking about the overwhelm but where real change happens - no way! 

So today, of course, I invite you to dive into the heart with me - the 3rd point of liberation on the Path of Liberation out of burnout, overwhelm and self sacrifice. 

join me for this Feminine Power Time: Are You Overgiving and Under Receiving? #3 of 3 in our Overwhelmed and Over It series. I will share: 

• The deeper ROOT reasons we over give and bankrupt ourselves emotionally, spiritually, relationally, physically, even financially

•The signs that you are OVER GIVING

•Different ways you over give that you might not know

•The 8 Fears underneath why you over give and sacrifice yourself 

•A practice you can use to get in touch with the deeper fears and feelings at the root of the overwhelm. 

•Three ELEVATE inquiries you can use in the moment to get your giving and receiving in harmony 

•A proactive practice that will support you to keep your giving and receiving at work, in relationship, etc in harmony.

I'll also read from of the chapters from my new book Overwhelmed and Over It which comes out Sept 2020. I didn't want to have you wait. 

AND... Here are three ways to get support, go deeper, and liberate yourself out of overwhelm and burnout and into the life and work design that supports and sustains you.

FLOW POWER PAUSE -
The Mid Year Reflection, Realignment, Refocusing 

1. Do it from home - www.FlowPowerPause.com

2. Join me in Seattle - July 9th 

3. Come to the Feminine Wisdom Weekend at Kripalu on the East Coast - www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 

AND IF YOU ARE READY TO TRULY LIBERATE YOURSELF FROM THE UNSUSTAINABLE REALITY of YOUR LIFE AND WORK...
I am looking for up to 11 women to join me for the Overwhelmed and Over It! 4-month Transformation this Summer and Fall. We start the end of June. 

Get the invitation here. www.OverwhelmedandOverIt.com

There are real reasons why no matter how many self care, stress management, or life hack strategies you try or how hard you try to do things like get sleep, eat well so you can thrive, that you cannot get out of the burnout, self sacrifice or overwhelm.

It's not your fault that you feel so stretched.

There are REAL systemic reasons that keep you trapped in unsustainable realities.  

And...

You are the only one with the power to change it. 

The good news is, you are not alone - we are ALL feeling this way.

And today I am inviting you to join me to take a step towards your personal liberation out of overwhelm and burnout.

Tune into this episode of Feminine Power Time with me Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor, teacher and author for "Overwhelmed and Over It!: Why It's Not Your Fault - The 5 Truths that Can Liberate You from Burnout & Self Sacrifice"

These truths took me a decade to unearth. 

I think you will find them empowering and illuminating.

Together, armed with the 'truth' we have the first step in setting ourselves and generations to come free - systemic and self awareness. 

Then in the next episode, we will talk about how to create a personal and social path for liberation and transformation. 

Tune in.

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To learn more about the Overworked, Overwhelmed & Over IT! personal transformation experience Christine is taking 11-13 women through as she writes the Overwhelmed and Over It Book this summer and fall go to - www.OverwhelmedandOverit.com 

To attend the yearly FLOW Mid Year Power Pause (From home)- Focus Your Life Force on What Matters the 2nd half of the year. Set your intentions professionally and personally purposefully. June 23rd. Do it live or at your own pace. Go to www.FlowPowerPause.com 

To learn more about

The Feminine Wisdom Way - www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

The Feminine Wisdom Weekend Summer Retreat - www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com

The Path of Self Love Training - Summer Immersion and Retreat -https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves

So many women I'm talking with are feeling stretched - being called to make changes, expansions, trust. In times like this week need more "mother love" - it's so powerful, does not just come from your birth mother. And since most of us aren't taught what that is or how to source it, I am replaying this Feminine Power Time. If you've never heard it, tune in. If you have, re-listen this is medicine and a message that will bring clarity, confidence and courage to you at this time.... 

"THERE IS A GREAT MOTHER LOVE AVAILABLE THAT CAN ACT AS THE SAFE AND SOFT HARBOR YOU NEED TO STAND STRONG + FEEL SUPPORTED. IT WILL HOLD YOU, SOOTHE YOU, AND GIVE YOU UNSTOPPABLE COURAGE."

When you read the words ‘mother love’ you likely go right to thinking about the mother who gave birth to you or the mother who raised you. And while that mother definitely has a role to play in our lives, she cannot be our only source of “mother love.”

Mother love is... a specific kind of love that every human being needs – we don’t outgrow the need for it, although we sadly forget how much we do need it.

Mother love is… the deep, all-embracing, all-accepting, nourishing, nurturing, warm, safe, supportive love that soothes the places inside our hearts that feel scared and lonely.

Mother love is… the strong love that we can fall into when we are stressed, stretched, uncertain, and feeling like we just can’t handle what’s happening in our life.

Sourcing Mother Love is not something most of us were taught how to do. In this Feminine Power Time with Christine Arylo: Mother Love: The Feminine Love That Will Hold You Through Transition:

• Reveal why one mother cannot be our only source of love – and how embracing this can wipe out all kinds of baggage and free you to receive the support, nurturing, courage, acceptance, patience, understanding and compassion
• Define Mother Love – this is SO much more than the story or situation between you and your birth mother. Even if you had the greatest mother growing up, your need for more Mother Love doesn’t end.
• See how the lack of Mother Love is often at the root of things like loneliness, feeling like you don’t belong, fear, not feeling like you have enough, are enough, not being cared for, not feeling supported  – these patterns will keep showing up if you don’t get to the root
• Explore the powerful 3 Sources of Mother Love that are here for all of us - there is SO much of this support here for us beyond what we have been taught exists.
• Learn simple practices you can do to invite this powerful, potent, feminine love into your heart and life –  including the Great Mother Bath

To dive deeper into the feminine connection with Christine Arylo, attend one of her virtual or in person Feminine Wisdom Sessions or Retreats - go here for more details www.ChristineArylo.com 

Or join Christine for The Feminine Wisdom Way - www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

Or The Path of Self Love Training at Kripalu this Summer. 

I QUIT! What do you do when you feel defeated, in despair at the state of the world or your world or just DONE, like you just don’t want to and can’t ‘do’ it anymore? Every woman I know feels this way - and most feel like it’s not okay to admit it. Or they don’t know what to do with these feelings. I get it. I lived this. I can visit this. And so many of the women I work with feel this way.

And it’s not our fault, but we are the only ones with the power to change it. We just haven’t been taught how to change it in a way that supports us vs. continues the strain and drain,

Which is why I could just feel in the field it was time to do a series on Liberating Us out of Overwhelm - not spiritually bypassing it or pretending self care tips will do the job. But for real liberation.

My next book, Overwhelmed and Over It! is about this very thing - it comes out Fall 2020 - And we need to address these things now! So we will in this Feminine Power Time, with me Christine Arylo: “I QUIT! Defeated. In Despair. Done” #1 of 3 in our Overwhelmed and Over It! Series.

Tune in for the conversation where we will dive into:

• WHY DO SO MANY OF US FEEL THIS WAY? Why it's normal to feel defeated, despair and done.
  
• THE PRACTICE OF QUITTING. You are going to LOVE this.
  
• USING THE FEELINGS TO GET CLEAR ON WHATS REALLY GOING IN FOR YOU WITHOUT DROWNING IN THEM. 
  
  
• DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PERSONAL DESPAIR & COLLECTIVE DESPAIR. And how to work with both.
  
• PREPARATION PRACTICES YOU MUST HAVE SO WHEN THE DEFEAT OR DESPAIR HITS YOU DON'T DROWN. Instead of being surprised, expect these ebbs and have the tools and support to navigate them.

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thank you xoxo 

UPCOMING FEMININE WISDOM WORKSHOPS, RETREATS, PROGRAMs - COME

Online Workshops and Programs

• FLOW - The Mid Year Power Pause
  Focus Your Lifeforce & Resources on What Matters. June 23 Live Video Stream or do anytime in June or July. Learn more and register at www.FlowPowerPause.com 
  
  
• FEMININE WISDOM WAY. Living, leading and succeeding differently, with your feminine super powers. Live in the FLOW. Learn to strengthen your feminine power. Grow your work, wealth, relationships, life the feminine way. Spring.Summer Enrollment open through end of June. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

In Person Retreats 

• FEMININE WISDOM WEEKEND - Mid Year Power Pause to Reflect, Re-Align and Re-Focus... Spend the weekend with other wise woman accessing your deeper wisdom to illuminate the path ahead for you. Learn practices for expanding your intuition, strengthening self trust, and making wise courageous choices.  www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 
  
• Seattle FLOW Mid Year Power Pause with the Ellevate Women's Network - July 9th.  https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/events/9152-flow-2019-part-3-of-our-power-pause-series-mid-year-intentions

What change is calling you? What threshold are you stepping over? What transition does your heart desire and your soul know it is time for, now?

And how do you walk into, through this transition in your full power and presence, supported and led not forcing and pushing? Or holding back or reverting to who and how you have been in the past?

I've been feeling called to have this conversation with you - about passing through what are called "Thresholds" - a term I learned from John O'Donohue, a beautiful teacher, poet, celtic mystic, writer and human advisor. I'll read his writing on THRESHOLDS at the start of our session to elevate how you think about change and transition in a way that makes it so much more empowering, potent and graceful. 

Fierce grace is the HOW we walk through change when we are fully embodied in our feminine power and wisdom. It's how we live our lives. 

And today, in this Feminine Power Time with me Christine Arylo, "Making Changes with Fierce Grace: Feminine Wisdom for Changing Times & Personal Transition " I invite you to:

• Claim the Change Calling You. Bring whatever transition or change you are going through in your life or that you desire -career, relationships, health, location, expression?
• Open up to a more empowering way to embrace and engage with the change 
•  Learn what graceful change looks and feels like, vs change that destroys or creates suffering - and how to 'do it'
• Consider how the mythos and energy of the PHOENIX can support you to release what is no longer needed and the RISE to your next expression and elevation 
• Take a stand for yourself - a FIERCE stand -for what matters to you at this time ... why this change MUST happen. 

 And of course, we will do this all from your power center - the HEART.

ABOUT THESE FEMININE WISDOM FOR CHANGING & INTENSE TIMES EPISODES 

I create these special Feminine Power Time episodes "Feminine Wisdom for Changing & Intense Times" to speak whatever wisdom I am being guided to share at this specific time based on what I am noticing and hearing from the people I work with - and seeing in myself. 

And based on the natural cycles and energy that is avaiable for us to work with as we lead, live and succeed in our lives a different way, having a impact and making a difference a sustainable way... as citizens of a universe not consumers driven by a machine... as self empowered sacred rebels here to show a different way, not follow the conventional status quo.

I'll drop these in for you 8 times a year, at the natural "flow" turning points - the four major turns, the equinoxes, solstices and then the 4 minor turns. These are the shifts of seasons no matter where you live, by which the earth and the cosmos operates. If you get in sync with them, you gain super power and your life, work and relationships get into sync too. 

For more on these cycles, join me at www.FeminineWisdomWay.com  

WISDOM INQUIRIES TO CHEW ON: 

1. NAME & CLAIM THE CHANGE / THRESHOLD - What threshold / transition are you standing at or walking through? What change is calling you, and what is the call? 

2. INVITE IN GRACE - What needs to be released so you can rise? What needs to be preserved so you can be sustained through this threshold? 

3. TAKE A FIERCE STAND - What does this transition matter to you? If you were being an advocate for yourself, what would you say NO to and what would you say YES TO?

WISDOM BYTES

#it is wise in your life to recognize and acknowledge key thresholds @johnodonohue 

#when making big changes you can go it alone and suffer or you can invite in grace to guide you and feel supported

#make no move before grace goes before you 

#take a stand for what matters to you 

#embrace the change calling you, and walk into the fire of transformation open hearted and you will rise wiser and fuller 

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What is your purpose in life? Ugh! This question makes me crazy. It's SO not helpful or empowering. Which is why this week we are going to blow the purpose models and consciousness we are taught in the current leadership and cultural paradigm out of the box!

Using our feminine power and deep wisdom, we know that purpose is something within us -not out there. But how do you reveal it?

How do you know if you are living on purpose or what you are giving your life force is in alignment with your purpose? 

How does knowing your purpose and understanding how it's so intricately related to who you are as a soul, and human keep you out of burnout, overwhelm and a life half lived, or wasted on things that don't really matter?

When you are on purpose, everything in your life aligns, and you feel in the flow, supported even if it's challenging (which is often is).

But then again you didn't come here to lead a boring life, did you???  

Today I, Christine Arylo, invite you to join me and a dear friend and woman I've had the honor to mentor and watch bloom into the embodiment of her purpose over the last decade, Jen Todd.

In this Feminine Power Time, #3 of 3 in our Re-Imagining our Feminine Power, Women on Purpose: we'll dive into:

• Re-defining what purpose is so it empowers you vs. short circuits you or makes you feel like your not doing enough 
   
•  Signs that you are in alignment with your purpose
•  Signs you are out of alignment with your purpose
• How you reveal what your purpose in a way that empowers and excites you 
• How to get out of the boxes your job or people put you in 
• Where purpose is sourced from within your body, spirit and mind 
• Tapping into your unleashed passion to liberate yourself to live on purpose! 

WISDOM BYTE: 

Have the courage to follow the whisper of your soul.

INQUIRY:

What is your soul whispering to you about your calling and purpose?  

ACTION:

Be sure to tune into the other episodes in this series - Women with Real Wealth and Women with a Voice.

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Thank you xxo Christine 

To stay connected to me via email, receive monthly Wisdom Letters and info on retreats and events - go to www.ChristineArylo.com 

What does embodied power look, sound and feel like in a woman who is expressing as her whole and true self?  What does it look, feel and sound like in you? In your presence? In your voice, spoken or written? In how you are received and perceived by others? 

How do you access your truth, your voice and use it to amplify your visibility, influence, and presence in the world… in a way that is true to your expression, your authentic self?

The models for what power looks like in a person, what it sounds like, what people respond to, are distorted.

So we as women and the women before us have to distort and contort ourselves to get a seat at the table, be taken seriously, have our voices heard, or take on the qualities of men or intellectual machines without heart.

That time is over.

No more contorting, distorting our presence to fit in.

And also no more having to scream to be heard, be serious to be taken seriously, and suppressing our femininity in how we dress, speak and show up.

Today I invite you to explore within yourself the ways in which if you knew how to more powerfully wield your voice and presence, you would create more of the reality you desire for yourself, the world and what matters to you.

Whether that is in your relationships, your career, your message, your business, HOW you show up and the presence you are in it, matters big time.

But how we’ve been taught to use that voice, to show up to get what we need and be heard isn’t working for us as women.

So today, in this episode of Feminine Power Time, PRESENCE: Women with a Voice, #2 of 3 in our Re-Imagining Feminine Power series, I invite you to join me, Christine Arylo, women’s leadership advisor and catalyst, and special guest Alexia Vernon, author of Step into Your Moxie, for a session that will touch your heart, open your voice, and inspire you to expand in your expression in this world this year.

We dive into:

• The history of what women have had to do to be heard or be taken seriously – thank you so much! And it’s our turn to do it differently.
  
• Why women are not taken seriously or heard – and men are often listened to over women
  
• Revealing what you do when you feel confident or insecure when speaking – are you a bunny, a bull, a cheetah or a owl? And how you may be sabotaging yourself?
  
• Reclaim what leadership is – and why we must do this as women to have the influence we desire in the world.
  
• How to have your full range of emotion and also be a powerful catalyst for change and elevation not more separation
  
• Difference between trying to BE something, and being who you are – and how to tell the difference
  
• Is what you look like on the outside reflecting who you are on the inside?
  
  
• What happens when you move from your focus from trying to inform and get other people to understand and to shifting to focusing on connection?
  
  
• Where your feminine power and voice lives in your body – and why spanx, bellies and flat abs are short circuiting our power
• How do you find and express your natural communication super power?

Here are some of the wisdom bytes from the show followed by how to connect with Alexia, including her book Step into Your Moxie – and also upcoming retreats with Christine Arylo.

WISDOM BYTES:

• Leadership is not bestowed vs. leadership is embodied and chosen.  
  
  
• Embrace your leadership power, do not try to “own” your power.
  
  
• Confidence comes from stopping to grip your body and let your body do what it knows how to do to connect with others and move the energy. It intuitively knows when to stay still, we know when to move.
   
• Your power comes from your presence, not your position.
   
• If you know what your core essences are, then you can be who you are truly are.
   
• If you don’t know who you are in your core, you will contort yourself to fit in.
   
• As women who want to have more impact in the world. we have to harness our storytelling power.
  
  
• We are being called to speak more clearly, authentically to be a vessel for the divine to come through.
   
• Speak from compassion without censoring what you have to say. 

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WISDOM INQUIRY FOR YOU:
What are you going to embody more of this year to more powerfully express your presence and voice?

What is wanting to come through you more this year? Make this year part of exploring this next season or elevation of your expression.

What do you need to embody that is already in you?

What from your past, needs to integrate into who you are now? Have an exploration. Play with how you dress, speak, write.

*****

MORE ON ALEXIA VERNON

Get Alexia Vernon's Book - great wisdom, fun, stories, and potent power. Practical, playful and powerful 

Step Into Your Moxie: Amplify your voice and visibility and influence in the world.

www.StepintoYourMoxie.com

Website: www.Alexiavernon.com

Social: @alexiavernon.com

UPCOMING RETREATS WITH CHRISTINE ARYLO

Feminine Wisdom Weekend – Mid Year Power Pause
Stay Strong and True to Yourself
July 2019

Kripalu

https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/feminine-wisdom-weekend-super-powers-staying-strong-and-true-yourself

The Path of Self Love Trainiing
July 2019
Kripalu

https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves

Note: This Feminine Power Time is part of the 3 part series on Re-Imagining Feminine Power. Tune into #1 of the series - WEALTH: Women with Real Wealth with Christine Arylo and Julie Murphy.

Let's get real about wealth is... how we are working and living in realities that keep us from cultivating it... and then use our deep feminine wisdom and power to REDEFINE wealth for our world and REVEAL our own path out of the realities that trap us or weigh us down... so you can be free to do the work you are here to do and love doing and create the WHOLE LIFE you desire. 

You have heard the saying money is power and money is the root of all evil. If you look around you can see a culture obsessed with making money and having more. And if you are like most people in the world, money has been a source of both success and also suffering and stress. And often usually the latter. 

The systems we live in are set up to keep us trapped in these unsustainable realties and repeating patterns. Even for people with lots of $ in their bank accounts, the heart and soul is often bankrupt. Or no matter how hard they work, how much money they make, there’s never enough.

How we have been taught to think about money, wealth and financial flow is messed up, and it’s what keeps us tied into ways of working, living and relating that keep us weighed down, trapped, and striving. Most people just have no idea of what is driving them at a root level, in their heart.

Nor have they been given the wisdom - the feminine wisdom - about how to work with wealth in a way that creates REAL wealth, the kind that makes you feel on the inside content, secure and seen no matter how much $ is in the bank. The kind of REAL wealth that actually leads to creating the meaningful career, life, relationships, you desire.

Which is why I invited a dear friend, and my personal wealth advisor, Julie Murphy, author of Awaken Your Wealth to kick off our 3 part series at Feminine Power Time on Re-Imagining Feminine Power starting with Women With Wealth.

Reimagining Feminine Power - because we are the ONEs through how we live and lead that will dream, define and create new realities, for how we work, set up our lives, value our time,

I decided to start with Women with Wealth because when our physical foundation is strong - which includes our wealth, financial flow and reserves, we are so much more able to actualize ourselves in our work and able to show up open hearted and generous in our relationships. Wealth and money is also where a lot of the shame, sabotaging patterns, and distortions of power live in our bodies, hearts and minds.

So join me and Julie for an expansive and real conversation about how the empowered way women embody wealth. We will dive into REIMAGINING -

• REAL WEALTH - and how the current definition of wealth keeps us striving and feeling never enough
• YOUR MONEY FOCUS - Shifting your focus from making money and accumulating money to creating and cultivating Real Wealth
•  MONEY & WORK & EFFORT -The reasons we get trapped with golden handcuffs, re-creating debt, feeling like if we just work harder or get to the next XX we will have enough
• DEBT - What Debt is, where it comes from inside of you, and the path to freeing yourself from the deeper patterns that create it
• THE  ARCHETYPES THAT MAKES YOUR FINANCIAL DECISIONS - The 5 types of financial archetypes that drive your economic choices - that keep you stuck in sabotaging patterns vs. real wealth.
• FINANCIAL FREEDOM & INDEPENDENCE - What is financial freedom really? And how to cultivate it so it gives you what you truly desire.
• THE ROLE MONEY PLAYS IN DESIGNING THE REALITY WE DESIRE - Shift the role of money and wealth into one of self empowerment vs. self judgment or subconscious patterns so you can more powerfully create the reality you desire for yourself, your work, those you love and lead.

It’s going to be a juicy conversation.

I poured my coffee into my A CUP OF LOVE tea - because i know MONEY is a catalyst that can bring up all kinds of energy like fear, shame, blame, self criticism, self judgment - all which take you out of your power, presence and purpose.

SO we use the super power of feminine wisdom and self love to open up your heart to forgive yourself for past choices, and empower yourself to work with your heart to get your life in to more alignment with your heart and soul now, knowing that when you do MORE WEALTH comes to you.

RETREATS AND TRAININGS WITH CHRISTINE ARYLO

Elevate Feminine Leadership Immersion - POWER. PRESENCE. PURPOSE.

www.FeminineLeadershipImmersion.com

April 25-28

Feminine Wisdom Weekend - A Mid Year Power Pause

www.https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/feminine-wisdom-weekend-super-powers-staying-strong-and-true-yourself

BOOKS and WEBSITE FOR JULIE MURPHY

Awaken Your Wealth

e-book

https://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Your-Wealth-Creating-OPTIMIZE-ebook/dp/B07PD1SCL2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2RWY444D7RFGB&keywords=awaken+your+wealth&qid=1554398155&s=gateway&sprefix=awaken+your+wealth%2Caps%2C200&sr=8-1

Julie Murphy Website - get connected and get notified when paperback is out.

https://www.juliemurphy.com/home

It's time for a Power Pause! 4 Inquiries to Ask Yourself To Feel Your Impact, Focus Your Work for the Months Ahead & Reset Imbalances in Work or Relationships

Vernal March Equinox is one of the four most powerful times of the year to take a 'power pause' and reset your rhythm, patterns and habits so they support you to create the life, work, relationships you desire to create. 

It’s also the time to consider HOW to focus your life force, time, and resources in your work, relationships and personal desires.

When you pause at this time, your internal rhythm aligns with the natural rhythm... you gain the power to reset habits that might have been okay in months prior but need a shift.

And you gain clarity on how to focus your life force so what you spend your time, energy & money creates what you desire.

Power pauses are leadership best practice, a wise way to run your business, organization or team, and I believe a must if you want to stay sustained and sane in a world in which we feel so much pressure to do so much. And then don’t have what we need to sustain ourselves.

Every year I hold power pauses at this 4 key shifting points, the equinoxes and the solstices, March, June, Sept and Dec - within my Feminine Wisdom Way training, some virtually, some weekend retreats and some for companies and organizations. I do this because this yearly practice of pausing 4x a year I believe is something most of us where not taught how to do, but when we do it, everything in our life works in better harmony. It’s how I run my life, business, partnership, relationships, and grow what is important to me.

Each power pause has a different focus and flavor depending on the time of the year.

In Feminine Power Time, I can’t share with you entire power pause process for March Equinox but I can give you a 30 minute power pause with 4 simple but mighty inquiries that will :

1. Show you what you have already done this year and how you are making a difference - so you can RECEIVE the rewards of your effort and FEEL the impact you are making.

If you don’t stop to acknowledge yourself, you never feel like you are doing enough, your brain does not register this as a reality so you keep pressuring yourself to do more, and you miss receiving the emotional feelings that come with recognizing your impact that fills you up, and gives you fuel for what is to come.
 

2. Reveal the imbalances in your work, relationships and patterns so you can re-balance the exchange of what you are giving and what you are receiving.

Equinox is the time to pause and really take a look at where the exchange between what you are giving to your work, relationships, projects, people, mission, are in harmony and where they are out of harmony. One big way you create overwhelm for yourself is over giving and under receiving. This creates financial stress, health stress, relational stress, all the stuff you don’t want into your life. So you reveal the imbalances and then take empowered action to shift them.

3. Name what you really desire to focus your energy on in your work and your relationships that may not be profitable or productive, but that you know would light you up or would help you create the new reality you desire for yourself.

Most people never get to their deeper heart and soul’s desires because their lives are packed too full, they are too busy. Or they feel the stress to make money and so don’t feel they have the space to work on things that are not money making. But in the feminine wisdom way, we believe that we must create space for these projects and relationships that are like deeper callings from our heart and soul that fuel the expression and elevation of our work and life.  

Bonus. We release a habit or pattern that doesn’t serve us any longer as we go into the next season - we don’t give up everything or go militant. We choose a few things to elevate and release, and also receive pleasure too.

Join me, Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor and wisdom teacher, for this episode of Feminine Power Time, a Equinox Power Pause. 

Tune in. 

Listen to the power pause. Journal on the questions.

Invite a friend to go to dinner and ask each other the questions.

Go Deeper - In Person Retreats and
Online Transformation Programs

Every Spring Equinox, Christine Arylo offers an in person retreat and a virtual retreat you can do from anywhere in the world. For details:

1. Spring Equinox Power Pause Urban Retreat - Seattle - with Ellevate Women’s Network March 23  www.SpringPowerPause.com
   
   
2. Burnout to Balance 40 Day Practice - open through April 1st - do this retreat from your life to create a more sustainable rhythm. www.40daypractice.com 
   
   
3. Elevate Feminine Leadership Immersion and Retreat - April 25-28  www.FeminineLeadershipImmersion.com

I am always over the moon thrilled when Spring Equinox rolls around - the vernal equinox which used to be the start of our calendar year before the calendar was changed by humans. It's the time on the planet where naturally things start to emerge, to sprout, to come up after a winter slumber. But in our mainstream world, we've already been hustling and working hard for months.

It's the time when if we were farmers we would plant our crops, choose what we were to grow and then work it equinox to equinox to reap an abundant harvest. Our work, business, project, wealth and relationships are no different.

It is also the time when our bodies naturally desire and need different food, they want to lighten up, cleanse and purify. Its the best time for elevating the practices, rituals and habits that create the structure and reality of how your life flows.

I never learned this in my traditional schooling or leadership training. I learned it through my wisdom training and my desire to seek a way to have the impact I desired, grow my work and wealth AND sustain my health ... to create a WHOLE LIFE in which I didn't have to push and work so hard.

I have much to share during the Spring which is why I hold retreats, power pauses and do my annual 40-Day Burnout to Balance practice. 

In this episode of Feminine Power Time, "The Power of Spring: Using the Energy of Seasonal Shift to Focus Your Work & Fuel Your Life Force", join me Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor, where I'll get you started with:

• Illuminate the imbalances in your life, relationships and work so you can get honest about what's not working and re-harmonize 
• Learn the 8 realms of a whole harmonized life, so you can create one
• How to think about your work in a way that helps you focus your life force and resources vs. try and do it all, or waste energy on what doesn't matter
• How to prioritize what you focus on in a way that gives the right amount of energy and time to the projects and relationships with the most potential to grow
• How to make sure you don't over give your time and energy to projects and people and drain yourself 
• Elevate how you relate to your body and life force 
• How to shift your habits and practices for the Spring based on what your body needs

To learn more about the 8 realms of a whole life, see the visual and do the harmony assessment - get the Fierce Grace feminine wisdom session Christine Arylo video streamed at www.FeminineWisdomSession.com or listen to it on the podcast Salon.

Upcoming retreats

Elevate: Power, Presence and Purpose. Feminine Leadership Retreat April 25-28  www.FeminineLeadershipImmersion.com 

Harmonize Spring Power Pause Seattle with Ellevate Women's Network: March 23rd, Urban 1/2 Day retreat. www.SpringPowerPause.com 

Upcoming 40-Day Practices

From Burnout to Balance: Create a More Sustainable Less Stressful Rhythm to your Life. www.BurnouttoBalancePractice.com  

When we look back at women's history, for over 50 + years since women fully entered the workforce, we have had to assimilate into systems for how we work, educate, govern, relate and operate in almost every realm of our lives... in which women had no say in creating.
 
The models for leadership, government, healthcare, education, business? All were created at a time when women had little power, no vote, and no voice.  

Today, we are in a different position.

Today, every woman - including you - has the potential to be a leader – in your organization, community, tribe, family, life – by consciously doing things differently.  

Leadership is a CHOICE you make, not a position, degree, or job you get.  Your power comes from your presence. Your presence comes from within. 

Your presence is that powerful, if you know how to access it's full spectrum and use it.  

On the eve of International Women’s Day, I held this feminine wisdom session you can tune into now. Join me Christine Arylo, women’s leadership teacher and advisor, MBA, and catalyst for personal and collective transformation, for an illuminating, eye opening, soul awakening wisdom "session" where we will dive into:

• Overwhelm and Burnout: Why you can't maintain balance, or find the time and energy you need, and why it's not your fault - and why until we address and solve this, nothing can really change for you, for women or the world.
• How Women Lead, Create & Operate Best: Why the current systems and solutions don't support how you innately work as a human being and a woman. If women designed the world, we'd get more done with less effort.
• The 11 Spectrums of Power: What masculine and feminine power really are & why you need to be able to articulate and access both. I'll share a model that makes this so practical so you can begin to assess where you are strong and weak and understand your own power and value biases.
• Feminine Presence: What is it? Why isn't it valued? And how are you giving this valuable asset away without being compensated or recognized for it?
• Fierce Grace: How to access both your fiery fierceness and deep stillness and wisdom to be a force of change without having to push, force or fight. How do you channel anger and outrage in a way that serves?
• How Power Expresses for You : How can you show up powerfully in a way that feels authentic to you? How do you use your power and life force strategically to cause the impact you desire?
• Daily Structures & Practices for Staying Calm, Centered, Clear and Focused: without a recipe and rhythm for how you start and end your days, you will get swirled up into the chaos of the world. There is a different way. I'll share it.

To get the video taping of this feminine wisdom session, go to www.FeminineWisdomSession.com 

To learn more about the Elevate Feminine Leadership Immersion at www.FeminineLeadershipWeekend.com

To learn more about the 40 Day Burnout to Balance Practice go to www.40daypowerpractice.com 

To receive Christine Arylo's weekly Feminine Wisdom Letters go to www.ChristineArylo.com 

We need sisterhood more than ever. Not just one friend or one group of women we relate to - but multiple 'circles' of women
 with different levels of intimacy, relationship, and connection that can be there with us and for us as we navigate through the intense and uncertain world we live in. 

Cultivating strong circles of sisterhood are our life saving devices during these intense and uncertain times.

With strong circles and connection to circles of other women -
that we are part of consistently, that we can reach out to in times of crisis or challenge, that know us, hold us and love us unconditionally- we can weather any storm that comes our way AND we gain the strength, courage and compassion to stretch in all the ways we are being called to grow and change.

Join Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor and wisdom teacher, and Shasta Nelson, friendship expert, for an illuminating and thought provoking conversation and exploration that includes: 

• How can you strengthen your circle of sisterhood?

• Female health fact that might surprise you + the difference between BELONGING and CONNECTING

• Why friendships don't just happen - get more conscious about the ingredients and actions for calling in + deepening your female connections

• The 3 components all friendships need to thrive 

• Why all friendships don't progress to deeper connections + how to tell which ones have the potential for growth

• What to do when you are feeling a 'sisterhood deficit'?

• What you desire NOW to strengthen your sisterhood connections?

This is wisdom my life partner and the man who has taught me about 90 percent of what I know about relationships stated to me when I was writing my first book, Choosing ME Before WE. Noah is often my first line editor when I write, as he brings a deep, thoughtful perspective. 

Over the years, it's only been me and the women in my mentoring and group programs that have benefitted from Noah's enlightening and practical wisdom. Or the few couples who have been up for doing work with us around creating powerful partnerships. He's as trained as me, he even has his master degree in spiritual psychology. But more than that, Noah seems to have been born with a super power to understand the dynamics between people, both in the relationship and the individual. He's been giving counsel on relationships since he was 8! 

So I thought, let's have Noah on Feminine Power Time for our series on LOVE and Relationship. 

I put a call out for questions through my Facebook pages and through my Feminine Wisdom Way circle.

I used these questions to frame our conversation. 

Noah says that LOVE is our natural state. Hmmm... I agree. It's not really love that is the hard part in relationships. We love easily. It's the trust, respect, leaning in, vulnerability, finding people willing to grow that seems to be challenging. 

Tune in with me Christine Arylo, women's leadership advisor, MBA and wisdom teacher for this Feminine Power Time: #84 LOVE, A Man's Perspective On Relationship with guest Noah Martin. It's the 2nd in our 4 part series. We will dive into questions like:

• It seems like the more I grow the harder it is to find someone who is at my same level, like there are just less people? What to do? 
• Do men really care about relationship? What were your fears when you met Christine and in your marriage, and how did you overcome them? 
• What do you do when you seem to be growing past your partner? You want to stay connected but it's not happening? 
• What made you want to keep growing and leaning in to relationship? 
• What are some of the things in your relationship with Christine that allow it to work so well? 
• How do I be in relationship with someone else without losing myself? 
• How do I know if the relationship I am in is not a good one for me?
• How do you get what you need in relationship without being needy or being a doormat? 

There are lots of our stories. Lots of our real honest banter back and forth. Tune in and take the wisdom about love and relationship that can support any of your relationships. 

And make sure to tune into the first episode, #83: How Smart Women Sabotage and Sacrifice Themselves for Relationship. 

And special February Offering from Noah - to support those committed to growing and thriving through relationship 

30 Minute Relationship Illumination Sessions with Noah Martin

50% savings just for February - $30 per session 

Learn more and sign up here 

www.CoachingbyNoah.com 

There will be a pop up box or go to his coaching page. 

https://www.coachingbynoah.com/relationship-illumination-session

In this special Feminine Super Power Salon, join Christine Arylo, MBA, founder of The Path of Self Love School, best-selling author of Choosing ME before WE, for a special session, where you will learn:  

• The most common self-love weaknesses that lead to bad relationship choices
• Why it's so hard to break repeating unhealthy relationship patterns - and how to get to the roots vs. treat the symptom  
• The common signs of a lack of self-love that cause smart and successful or sensitive and kind people to make terrible relationship choices  
• Reveal how your current relationships - romantic, friendships, family, colleagues - are affecting your career, wealth, health and dreams  
• How to teach people to set the right expectations and levels of vulnerability - so they don’t set themselves up to be disappointed, deceived or drained  
• How to teach people to go beyond the stories in their heads and the wounds in their hearts to get to the root of their own healing using self-love practices and creative ‘heart art’  
• We will also answer questions about our upcoming teacher training on Self Love & Relationships, which like a yoga teacher training, can be taken for personal and professional reasons. For people ready for a deep dive and mastery in the realm of self-love and relationship 

To watch the video stream go to www.SelfLoveClass.com

Taped live on the international day of Self Love, February 13th.

To learn more about The Path of Self Love School go to www.PathofSelfLove.org

To learn more about the Year Of Self Love go to www.YearOfSelfLove.com

Why do so many of us smart women sabotage ourselves when it comes to relationships? And as a result sacrifice what we need, or sacrifice or dreams and desires. Or settle for less in our partnerships and friendships? Or put up with non-respectful and relationships with our relatives or at work? How can we be good at our jobs and rock our careers, yet struggle in the realm of love and the heart?

And how do we find the wisdom to create the strong, beautiful, supportive partnerships, friendships, family, community that we not only desire but that we actually NEED to have the impact we desire and be supported and cared for and sustained. 

Over my life and my work with amazing, strong, good hearted women, I noticed that we have been sold a bill of goods about love and relationship that is just plain WRONG. What we are taught to expect, how we see ourselves and others, how we show up in them, what healthy relationships look like is in so many ways warped and distorted, not powerful and wise.

The cost of this is huge.

Your relationships can either be the wind beneath your wings that support you to soar, or the chains around your heart that keep you from your dreams, desires and deep human need to feel loved, safe and cared for.

If we as grown women do not know how to cultivate healthy relationships that support us to thrive, how can we expect the children we raise or the young people we influence to grow strong on the inside to have only respectful relationships?

In 2009, I wrote my first book, Choosing ME Before WE, because I just could not watch another woman suffer in her relationships.

In 2015 I started the Path of Self Love School to teach women and girls and now men and boys the wisdom I never got growing up but that we all need. And the tools to understand how to work with my own heart so all my relationships could support me to soar.

This month, I felt inspired to create a 4 part Feminine Power Time for you on LOVE and Relationships.

This first Feminine Power Time, “Why Smart Women Sabotage and Sacrifice Themselves in Relationship”  is with me Christine Arylo - you and me heart to heart on this essential part of our feminine power and wisdom. 

The ones to come will include guests to take us deeper into different realms of love and relationship - your LOVE LIFE includes much more than ‘romantic relationships’.

For today, I invite you to tune in as we dive deeper into:

• 3 big misunderstandings about love that lead to suffering and sacrificing ourselves in relationship
• 3 big wisdom bytes to right those misunderstandings that will affect all of your relationships
• Why working harder, giving more and making it work are bad choices for your relationships
• How wounds - love cracks-from our young life show up in our adult work life
• Why our hearts hurt so bad when a relationship ends - it’s not what you think
• How to tell if the person you love is really able to grow with you
• How to tell if your overstaying in a relationship that needs to expire
• Signs that you are sacrificing yourself or your dreams in your relationship

PLUS

I will share my personal story about relationships and how it became my catalyst and saved me from creating a life and career that wasn’t what I really wanted.

I’ll do a short reading from Choosing ME Before WE that rocked my world and opened the door to self forgiveness for my relationship choices.

We’ll stop and reflect on how these misunderstandings are showing up in your life or in those you love.

Then next week,

in Feminine Power Time on LOVE 2 of 4, my soul partner and the man who has taught me SO much about relationship, Noah Martin, will join us for “What We’ve Learned about Love in Partnership.”

More Resources, Programs, Books

If LOVE and Relationship is an area of focus for you this year or someone you know, join us and check out:

“The Impact of Self Love on Our Relationships”

SELF LOVE DAY - Feb 13th

www.SelfLoveSession.com  RSVP for Free

The Path of Self Love Teacher Training 2019

Self Love & Relationship Module starts March 5th

www.SelfLoveTraining.com

Choosing ME Before WE - the book

www.mebeforewe.com

Path of Self Love In Person Training & Retreat 
Teaching Others to Love Themselves

July 2019 - Kripalu 

https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves

One of my favorite and most powerful feminine wisdom practices is asking powerful inquiries at the start to the year that give me clarity about how to focus in the year to come.  Inquiries are powerful portals to get beyond the limitations of your mind which can only create what it’s known before.

With the right inquiry you can open up your imagination and your connection to the Universal mind - which is so much more tuned in… and can show you ways of doing things that are different than you experienced before,

In the mainstream world, we are taught to value and trust the intellect over the intuition. We are taught to seek answers and to find facts. But this can only create more of the same we’ve known - in our own lives and in the world.

All great wisdom teachers have known the power of inquiry. Which is why over the past month I’ve been sharing with you a series of inquiries through the EMERGE 2019 series… to help you get focused and clear on how to best focus for the year to come. If you missed those episodes of Feminine Power Time, tune in!

Today, is the final inquiry I have for you … one that can expand what is possible for you… and keep you focused on what matters.

** What is this year really about for you? **

Join me, Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor, for this Feminine Power Time: Episode 82: ‘What Is This Year Really About for You? Setting the focus, field and feeling for the year to come.

Wise women and men proactively ‘set the field’ for the year to come, they don’t just approach their year like a windsock who gets blown around. Nor do we only rely on our intellect and facts. Because we know our intuition and the imagination has super power!

So tune in as we explore together:

* What is the soul stretch or catalyst calling for your focus?

* How focusing on the stretch or catalyst can excel your path and what you desire to create.

* What are your 3 Harmonizers this year - the 3 words that reflect what you want to feel?

* How to use FEELING to guide your choices and projects this year so what you focus on gives you what you desire.

* In your work what is it time to grow? What is it time to seed?

* How to think about your work differently - in the feminine way that allows you to effort less and receive more.

I included lots of stories here about how real women including me!

And also I’ll slow it down like we always do at Feminine Power Time so you can check in with your inner wisdom about what is true for you.

And if you desire more Feminine Wisdom, support, wisdom, structure and sisterhood… join me for

RETREATS & FEMININE LEADERSHIP

* ELEVATE Feminine Leadership Immersion 3-Day Retreat - April 25-28 - Seattle Coast  Invitation details Here

www.FeminineLeadershipImmersion.com

* March 23. HARMONIZE 2019. Seattle. A Spring Power Pause. Feminine Power for Creating a Successful and Sustainable Life in Which You Can Really Thrive. WIth the Ellevate Women’s Network. 

https://www.ellevatenetwork.com/events/9091-ellevate-seattle-2019-power-pause-series-mar-jul-sep

* EAST COAST: Feminine Wisdom Weekend - Mid Year Power Pause. Super Powers for Staying Strong and True to Yourself. Kripalu July 19-21 Click here for details.

VIRTUAL 40-Day PRACTICES

* Burnout to Balance Spring Re-Harmonizer Practice. Starts March 2019.

TEACHER TRAININGS

* Path of Self Love Teacher Training - March 5th - virtual    www.SelfLoveTraining.com

* Path of Self Love Teacher Training - July 21-26 - In Person Kripalu

https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves

Every year in January I wait to do this special Feminine Power Time session until the timing feels just right. This year, it was exactly on the first full moon of the year, a wolf moon, super moon, blood moon, eclipse just as the sun was setting on the Puget Sound across from my studio window.

I’ve been thinking of you all for weeks and what would emerge to be shared on the yearly “Feminine Wisdom for The Year Ahead” episode.

After weeks of being in my own reflection and visioning process, watching what’s happening in the world, deepening in my own practice and listening for guidance from Wisdom with a capital W, once again, a series of ‘wisdom bytes’ flowed out.

Tune in for this year’s Feminine Wisdom for the Year Ahead - 2019, a yearly occurrence here at Feminine Power Time. It’s not about fortune telling, it’s about reading the signs all around us, feeling the knowings within us, and then being WISE about what is happening in the world and how we desire and choose to show up.

Feminine wisdom teaches us to prepare for the intensity, uncertainty, transformation and change that is just part of how the world is operating right now.

Not to brace yourself for it, but to embrace it, pace yourself through it and cultivate the vitality, resilience and wisdom you’ll need to stay elevated above the fray and the chaos.

Tune in with me, Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor and women’s leadership and empowerment teacher, as we:

• Get real and honest about the ELEVATION the world is going through, and our individual part in it
  
• Why ELEVATE is one of my favorite and most powerful words -and how it can support you in the years to come
  
• Reveal what you need to know about what you don’t know - cuz you don't know what you don't know! 
  
• Explore what level of consciousness is keeping you stuck at baser levels of reality, and what is needed to expand your possibility, change your reality, and keep you growing in a way that stretches but doesn’t stress you.
  
• Share what Michele Obama and my two greatest spiritual mentors say about pacing ourselves so we don’t burnout
  
• The 3 kinds of practices you want to be cultivating this year so you can stay centered, calm, focused, energized and healthy
  
• How to think about the support you need for the coming year
  
• How you have the power within to change the distortions in power, greed, consumption by your choices and what you are willing to see and explore within yourself

2019 will be full of change, transformation and uncertainty. Wise women prepare themselves with the practices, wisdom and support they need to walk through the storm with grace.

And if you desire more Feminine Wisdom, support, wisdom, structure and sisterhood… join me for

RETREATS & FEMININE LEADERSHIP

• ELEVATE Feminine Leadership Immersion 3-Day Retreat - April 25-28 - Seattle Coast  Invitation details here. 22 spaces available. www.FeminineLeadershipImmersion.com
  
• March 23. HARMONIZE 2019. Seattle. A Spring Power Pause. Feminine Power for Creating a Successful and Sustainable Life in Which You Can Really Thrive. WIth the Ellevate Women’s Network. Learn more here.
  
• EAST COAST: Feminine Wisdom Weekend - Mid Year Power Pause. Super Powers for Staying Strong and True to Yourself. Kripalu July 19-21 Learn More Here.

VIRTUAL 40-Day PRACTICES

• Burnout to Balance Annual Spring Re-Harmonizer Practice. Starts March 2019.

TEACHER & IN DEPTH TRAININGS

* Path of Self Love Teacher Training - March 5th through May 2019 - virtual, attend from anywhere in the world - learn more www.SelfLoveTraining.com 

* Path of Self Love Teacher Training, in person - July 21-26 - In Person Kripalu, come for a 5-day immersion and intensive 

There are SO many things you could do and give your life force and resources, which is why it is not only wise but essential to take a pause and get clear about what really matters to you, and you get real about what the Universe is guiding you to this year.

You have heard the saying “follow your heart”? That is not just some nice refrigerator magnet. That is a life directive. You’ve heard the saying, “Trust the Universe Has your Back” well if you are not communicating with the Universe, you can’t make choices in your work, relationships, health or wealth or home that are congruent with what the Universe is guiding you too.

We aren’t taught HOW to communicate with our heart and soul in school or on the job, but it’s the only way to create lives in alignment with our truth, and in my experience the only way to run a business, lead a career, make an impact, raise a family and stay sustained and nourished within.

This is the realm of Feminine Leadership and Wisdom, which is why I created this EMERGE 2019 Series for you - to open up possibility and help you get clarity about how to focus and flow this coming year — connected to your heart, led by Wisdom.

Originally it was going to be a 3 part series for Feminine Power Time, but after leading 65 women through an EMERGE evening workshop in Seattle I KNEW I needed to create this fourth episode for you: “What Really Matters for You this Year: Get Attuned to What Your Heart & Soul Have to Share with You About 2019.”

Today, join me, Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor, MBA and wisdom teacher for a Feminine Power time that includes feminine wisdom + a personal guided meditation to: 

• Receive wisdom about how the intersection of your heart desires and the Universe’s message are like portals to illuminating the path ahead for the year.
• Receive two inquiries that will tap you into what your heart and the Universe have to say
• Gain clarity on what REALLY matters to you this coming year - so how you give your life force and resources matches what nourishes you and what you truly desire vs. what pulls you in too many directions that make you busy not happy
• Gain clarity on what the Universe is trying to show you about what to focus on this year in your work, relationships, health, wealth and home - so you can respond to the call vs. getting whacked with a universal 2 x 4 later or miss the opportunity all together

The first part of the session is a dive into the wisdom. The second a personal meditation I created for you to gain wisdom on what matters and what is calling for your life force this year.

You can ‘do’ it as a meditation and journal out what you find. Or you can just listen and imagine your intuitive channels opening and your true hearts desires forming so you can co create them into form this coming year.

If you have not yet received the wisdom from the first three episodes in the series, they are:

EMERGE SERIES

78: Resisting Change and Our Callings: How to Move Through It with Compassion, Courage and Grace - Emerge 1 of 4.

79: AWAKEN: Wake Up to What the Universe is Trying to Show You About You & This Coming Year! - Emerge 2 of 4.

SALON - A Different Way to Dream: Vision, Plan & Focus Your Year, The Feminine Way 2019 - Emerge 3 of 4.

And if you desire more Feminine Wisdom, support, wisdom, structure and sisterhood… join me for

IN PERSON OR VIRTUAL WORKSHOPS

* EMERGE 2019 Evening Workshop with Ellevate Women’s Network, Seattle. - Jan 15th - Details here.

VISIONING & FEMININE WISDOM PROGRAMS

* The Feminine Wisdom Way 2019 - Visioning Journey and Feminine Wisdom Training for leading, living and succeeding a different way.  Get the invitation www.FeminineWisdomWay.com

UPCOMING RETREATS

* Dream Partnership Retreat - Couples Who Dream Together Thrive Together - Feb 1-4, includes year end reflection, Jan visioning process and retreat  www.DreamPartnership.com

* Elevate Feminine Leadership Immersion - April 25-28 - Save the Date!

There is a misunderstanding in our culture about visioning, dreaming and goals setting that stems from the go,go, go,work hard, stay busy, mindset we've been trained to operate from in the distorted versions of masculine and feminine power in our mainstream systems.

Even big misunderstandings about manifesting, the law of attraction, and vision boards of baseline spiritual teaching that lead to self criticism & stress later in the year.

The good news is this....There is another way, a sacred, super-powered way to dream, that gives you access to deeper levels of Wisdom that can fuel  & focus what you desire to create for yourself, your work, your family and this world in 2019.

Which is why I, Christine Arylo, held this special feminine wisdom session and salon, A Different Way to Dream. Originally livestreamed via video, here for you now, where we will dive into:

• Why using traditional goal-setting, resolution-making, manifesting techniques, and vision boarding can create  more stress,  pressure and self-criticism in 2019 (you don't want to start your year like this).  

• The Wisdom Way of using the entire month of January to set the path and foundation for 2019 , so  you can create a reality in which you are both achieving what you truly desire + receiving what you need.  

• How to set yourself up to stay OUT OF OVERWHELM in 2019 and stay FOCUSED on what matters most to you, so you can  grow your work /career/business, nurture your relationships, take care of what and who you love, with sacrificing yourself. 

• How to increase your access to 'Feminine Wisdom' and keep it strong all year, so you feel Productive & Successful, and also Calm, Centered & Spacious throughout 2019...even in times of intensity. 

To gain access to the Feminine Wisdom Session and the visuals of the models that Christine Arylo talks about, go to www.FeminineWisdomSession.com to request the recording and access.  

To join Christine and women around the world for a practical and spiritual way to live and lead the feminine way, including Visioning and Planning the year the feminine way, go to www.FeminineSuperPowerYear.com 

As we embark on the journey into a new year poised to be full of more intensity, change and stepping into the unknown, it’s oh so essential to make sure that your Wisdom Channels are as clear as possible. 

The challenge is that you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. The Universe is trying to get your attention, trying to show you things you can't see or understand yet, or maybe you don't want to see (because then you would have to do something about it!)

You can waste a lot of time and life force walking around in the dark, trying to figure things out, holding onto the same patterns because your CONSCIOUSNESS has not awoken to the next level of awareness and insight, yet.

Which is why I created this 3 part series of Feminine Power Time for you called EMERGE - to support you to emerge into the new year with more access to self-awareness and to a higher level of wisdom as to how you work, the world works and how you can best work within it.

You can't change what you can't see...
and once you see it, you must do something with it.

Don't fear this... embrace it. So much more power and wisdom await you if your willing to open your eyes to new realities and possibilities. 

This 2nd in the EMERGE series is called: AWAKEN: Wake Up to What the Universe is Trying to Show You about You!  I invited a guest to join us for a deep, real and enlightening conversation to give yourself space to AWAKEN… to adjust to the light, to stretch your body, to wake up gently but purposely into the new year. To consider what wisdom and guidance the Universe is knocking on your door trying to show you. 

 Awakening is not something you do one time in your life. If you are wise, it's something you do again and again. 

This time of year - the thresholds between years and the start of a new cycle - give you special super powers to access expanded levels of insight about yourself, the world, and the systems and relationships you work within. 

Today, join me, Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor, MBA and wisdom teacher, and guest Julie Santiago, author of Awaken: 6 Steps to Remembering Who You Are, for a juicy, real and heart opening conversation about:

• What does it mean to awaken? And why you want to know how to consciously do it. 
  
  
• Why awakening is not something you do just once and how it affects all your choices from career to love to money and more… wise women treat awakening like a continuous process you seek out. And understand that even the most 'spiritually evolved' still resist awakening! 
• The process for how we become hip to things in our work or relationship or the way the world works that once seemed normal but when our higher consciousness kicks in seem crazy and unhealthy - and what do when you have these kinds of AHAs?? 
• What do you do when start to see things that others around you at work and home don’t see - and you don't want people to think you are crazy! 
• How do you determine when and if’s its time to leave a job or a relationship that you’ve outgrown - and how to do it wisely?
• What are the signs that you are avoiding awakening to a deeper truth or a soul call?
• What do you do when 'weird' stuff starts to happen that you can't explain with your brain - but you know in your heart is real.
  
  
• How you can proactively ‘wake up’ to higher levels of insight and therefore working and living and relating - so you don't get a Universal 2x4 Wake Up Call at Your Door One Day.
• What your awakening has to do with everything you see in the world that you don’t like or want to be different.

We will make this personal and real to you as we always do at Feminine Power Time. 

Bring whatever catalyst, change, calling is calling you to wake up and elevate your understanding and insight and wisdom.

We are all being called to awaken to more truth and to what is really happening around us and within us.

We are being called to make wise changes not brash moves. And we are being called to be bold in our stand for making changes that are often challenging. Wise + bold = need expanded levels of consciousness and understanding. We have to upgrade our operating systems! 

I invite you to tune into this episode and this time of the year when LIGHT RETURNS to light up the unconscious or unseen parts of your life, so that  you can EMERGE in 2019 focused on what matters, fully embracing your path and expressing yourself, embodied in your wisdom and power, ready for what’s ahead.

Join me for this series of Feminine Power Time: EMERGE 2019. And be sure to listen to the first episode in it 78: Resisting Change and Our Callings: Don't Get Stuck. 

And also make sure to join me for...

IN PERSON OR VIRTUAL WORKSHOPS

* 2018 Power Pause and Reflection Ritual -  www.ReflectionRitual.com - my gift. RSVP.

* A Different Way To Dream - Jan 3rd Feminine Wisdom Session www.FeminineWisdomSession.com

* EMERGE 2019 Evening Workshop with Ellevate Women’s Network, Seattle. Jan 15th - Register here 

VISIONING & FEMININE WISDOM PROGRAMS

* The Feminine Wisdom Way 2019 - Visioning Journey and Feminine Wisdom Training for leading, living and succeeding a different way.  Get the invitation www.FeminineWisdomWay.com

UPCOMING RETREATS

* Dream Partnership Retreat - Couples Who Dream Together Thrive Together - Feb 1-4, includes year end reflection, Jan visioning process and retreat  www.DreamPartnership.com

* Elevate Feminine Leadership Immersion - April 25-28 - Save the Date!