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Feminine Power Time with Christine Arylo

Turn off the chatter and tune into what matters. Time just for you to attune to the guidance of your heart and soul & tap into your Divine Feminine wisdom. Christine Arylo shares spiritual wisdom and self love guidance modified for modern life. Invoking, Provoking & Elevating. Use this time to keep your life aligned.
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Jun 20, 2019

Our human heart needs love to thrive just like our lungs need oxygen to survive. We are taught to be strong, have self esteem and project confidence. We desire to have meaningful ‘relationships’ in both our ‘romantic’ life and ‘friend’ life. But most women I know are lacking the connection, support, intimacy, affection, and acknowledgment they need and desire in both areas of their life.

Why?

We are weak receivers. Our capacity to receive the love, support, care, intimacy - aka your Love Quotient - is low. So even if the love and connection comes, you don’t actually let it in, really.

We’ve had to protect ourselves and so have built walls around us or become like teflon. So the connection cannot really get through.

We are so busy doing, we don’t have the space for true connection.

And more…

In this Feminine Power Time, "Receive More Love, Connection, & Support in Your Relationships", #2 in our series called OPEN TO RECEIVE, Christine Arylo dives into the realm of intimate relationships. Your life partner relationship and your sisterhood and deep soul family.

Tune in to reveal and become more aware of:

  • Where and how you are blocking the love, support, connection, intimacy, acknowledgment, affection you desire
  • Signs you are blocking love and support
  • Your specific self-sabotaging love strategy for protecting yourself - which is repelling the connection you desire
  • Simple but might practices for opening yourself to receive more connection, support, care, love, community
  • 4 inquires to take into your life laboratory and gain more self awareness to how you are pushing away that which you desire in your relationships
  • How you show up in your friendships connect to how you show up in your romantic relationships
  • How your relationships - or lack of - affect your success in your career and work life 

Most of all come to press a pause on all the pressure you put on yourself to achieve in your career or to take care of others …. and be honest that you desire more love, connection and support in your life.

This episode of FemininePower Time is a choice to create space for what truly matters to your heart. That doesn’t make you weak. it makes you wise and a woman.

 

Wisdom Inquiries

Consider the relationships you desire - in your beloved partnership life and in your sisterhood (for women), brotherhood (for men) or soul circle for any gender. Notice what you desire. And what is true now.

 

1.   What am I protecting myself from?

 

2.  What strategies am I employing to protect myself?  Over protecting? Over giving? Walls around my Heart? Teflon affect?

 

3. What opens my heart?

 

4. What do I desire to receive in my beloved partnership? in my soul circle?  Connection? Camaderie? Intimacy? Recognition? Acknoweldgement? Affection?

 

Then go into your life and notice when you are contracting away from the love,  and when you are expanding.

Choose to expand your love quotient - use the mantra I OPEN TO RECEIVE!

 

For more on working with Christine

1. FLOW Mid Year Power Pause - do in June or July to get focused on what matters - www.FlowPowerPause.com  Do from home. 

2. Feminine Wisdom Way - 6-month feminine wisdom training includes Power Pause, which is the path of living, leading and succeeding in a way that supports you to achieve what matters AND be sustained. www.FeminineWisdomWay.com  We only open enrollment in January or June/July for this. 

3. Feminine Wisdom Weekend Retreat - Kripalu - July 19-21 www.FeminineWisdomWeekend.com 

4. The Path of Self Love Teacher Training - Kripalu - July 21-26 www.SelfLoveRetreat.com 

 

SAVE THE DATE - 

Choosing ME & WE 40-Day Practice 

Cultivate the Loving, Supportive Relationships You Desire & Deserve

Starts August 1st 

Feb 28, 2019

We need sisterhood more than ever. Not just one friend or one group of women we relate to - but multiple 'circles' of women
 with different levels of intimacy, relationship, and connection that can be there with us and for us as we navigate through the intense and uncertain world we live in. 

Cultivating strong circles of sisterhood are our life saving devices during these intense and uncertain times.

With strong circles and connection to circles of other women -
that we are part of consistently, that we can reach out to in times of crisis or challenge, that know us, hold us and love us unconditionally- we can weather any storm that comes our way AND we gain the strength, courage and compassion to stretch in all the ways we are being called to grow and change.

Join Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor and wisdom teacher, and Shasta Nelson, friendship expert, for an illuminating and thought provoking conversation and exploration that includes: 

  • How can you strengthen your circle of sisterhood?

  • Female health fact that might surprise you + the difference between BELONGING and CONNECTING

  • Why friendships don't just happen - get more conscious about the ingredients and actions for calling in + deepening your female connections

  • The 3 components all friendships need to thrive 

  • Why all friendships don't progress to deeper connections + how to tell which ones have the potential for growth

  • What to do when you are feeling a 'sisterhood deficit'?

  • What you desire NOW to strengthen your sisterhood connections?

 

Feb 14, 2019

 

 

This is wisdom my life partner and the man who has taught me about 90 percent of what I know about relationships stated to me when I was writing my first book, Choosing ME Before WE. Noah is often my first line editor when I write, as he brings a deep, thoughtful perspective. 

Over the years, it's only been me and the women in my mentoring and group programs that have benefitted from Noah's enlightening and practical wisdom. Or the few couples who have been up for doing work with us around creating powerful partnerships. He's as trained as me, he even has his master degree in spiritual psychology. But more than that, Noah seems to have been born with a super power to understand the dynamics between people, both in the relationship and the individual. He's been giving counsel on relationships since he was 8! 

So I thought, let's have Noah on Feminine Power Time for our series on LOVE and Relationship. 

I put a call out for questions through my Facebook pages and through my Feminine Wisdom Way circle.

I used these questions to frame our conversation. 

Noah says that LOVE is our natural state. Hmmm... I agree. It's not really love that is the hard part in relationships. We love easily. It's the trust, respect, leaning in, vulnerability, finding people willing to grow that seems to be challenging. 

Tune in with me Christine Arylo, women's leadership advisor, MBA and wisdom teacher for this Feminine Power Time: #84 LOVE, A Man's Perspective On Relationship with guest Noah Martin. It's the 2nd in our 4 part series. We will dive into questions like:

  • It seems like the more I grow the harder it is to find someone who is at my same level, like there are just less people? What to do? 
  • Do men really care about relationship? What were your fears when you met Christine and in your marriage, and how did you overcome them? 
  • What do you do when you seem to be growing past your partner? You want to stay connected but it's not happening? 
  • What made you want to keep growing and leaning in to relationship? 
  • What are some of the things in your relationship with Christine that allow it to work so well? 
  • How do I be in relationship with someone else without losing myself? 
  • How do I know if the relationship I am in is not a good one for me?
  • How do you get what you need in relationship without being needy or being a doormat? 

There are lots of our stories. Lots of our real honest banter back and forth. Tune in and take the wisdom about love and relationship that can support any of your relationships. 

And make sure to tune into the first episode, #83: How Smart Women Sabotage and Sacrifice Themselves for Relationship. 

And special February Offering from Noah - to support those committed to growing and thriving through relationship 

30 Minute Relationship Illumination Sessions with Noah Martin

50% savings just for February - $30 per session 

Learn more and sign up here 

www.CoachingbyNoah.com 

There will be a pop up box or go to his coaching page. 

https://www.coachingbynoah.com/relationship-illumination-session

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feb 9, 2019

Why do so many of us smart women sabotage ourselves when it comes to relationships? And as a result sacrifice what we need, or sacrifice or dreams and desires. Or settle for less in our partnerships and friendships? Or put up with non-respectful and relationships with our relatives or at work? How can we be good at our jobs and rock our careers, yet struggle in the realm of love and the heart?

And how do we find the wisdom to create the strong, beautiful, supportive partnerships, friendships, family, community that we not only desire but that we actually NEED to have the impact we desire and be supported and cared for and sustained. 

Over my life and my work with amazing, strong, good hearted women, I noticed that we have been sold a bill of goods about love and relationship that is just plain WRONG. What we are taught to expect, how we see ourselves and others, how we show up in them, what healthy relationships look like is in so many ways warped and distorted, not powerful and wise.

The cost of this is huge.

Your relationships can either be the wind beneath your wings that support you to soar, or the chains around your heart that keep you from your dreams, desires and deep human need to feel loved, safe and cared for.

If we as grown women do not know how to cultivate healthy relationships that support us to thrive, how can we expect the children we raise or the young people we influence to grow strong on the inside to have only respectful relationships?

In 2009, I wrote my first book, Choosing ME Before WE, because I just could not watch another woman suffer in her relationships.

In 2015 I started the Path of Self Love School to teach women and girls and now men and boys the wisdom I never got growing up but that we all need. And the tools to understand how to work with my own heart so all my relationships could support me to soar.

This month, I felt inspired to create a 4 part Feminine Power Time for you on LOVE and Relationships.

This first Feminine Power Time, “Why Smart Women Sabotage and Sacrifice Themselves in Relationship”  is with me Christine Arylo - you and me heart to heart on this essential part of our feminine power and wisdom. 

The ones to come will include guests to take us deeper into different realms of love and relationship - your LOVE LIFE includes much more than ‘romantic relationships’.

For today, I invite you to tune in as we dive deeper into:

  • 3 big misunderstandings about love that lead to suffering and sacrificing ourselves in relationship
  • 3 big wisdom bytes to right those misunderstandings that will affect all of your relationships
  • Why working harder, giving more and making it work are bad choices for your relationships
  • How wounds - love cracks-from our young life show up in our adult work life
  • Why our hearts hurt so bad when a relationship ends - it’s not what you think
  • How to tell if the person you love is really able to grow with you
  • How to tell if your overstaying in a relationship that needs to expire
  • Signs that you are sacrificing yourself or your dreams in your relationship

PLUS

I will share my personal story about relationships and how it became my catalyst and saved me from creating a life and career that wasn’t what I really wanted.

I’ll do a short reading from Choosing ME Before WE that rocked my world and opened the door to self forgiveness for my relationship choices.

We’ll stop and reflect on how these misunderstandings are showing up in your life or in those you love.

Then next week,

in Feminine Power Time on LOVE 2 of 4, my soul partner and the man who has taught me SO much about relationship, Noah Martin, will join us for “What We’ve Learned about Love in Partnership.”

More Resources, Programs, Books

If LOVE and Relationship is an area of focus for you this year or someone you know, join us and check out:

 

“The Impact of Self Love on Our Relationships”

SELF LOVE DAY - Feb 13th

www.SelfLoveSession.com  RSVP for Free

 

The Path of Self Love Teacher Training 2019

Self Love & Relationship Module starts March 5th

www.SelfLoveTraining.com

 

Choosing ME Before WE - the book

www.mebeforewe.com

 

Path of Self Love In Person Training & Retreat 
Teaching Others to Love Themselves

July 2019 - Kripalu 

https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves

 

 

 

Oct 19, 2018

Couples who dream together thrive together. People who are clear and centered in their own dream create partnerships that support them to soar. Sadly, most of us have never been taught how to create such relationships. We are kinda clueless about what 'dreaming' together really is, and how to create the kinds of relationship where both people's dreams can be met.

It's so easy to get bogged down by the day to day reality that our relationships can become all about getting through our lives, taking care of the money, kids, house vs. have a shared dream that inspires each person and holds the center for how you make your life choices. 

Or if you are single, and are not clear on your personal dream or you don't have an imprint of what a true strong partnership looks like, you can end up choosing a mate who isn't capable of supporting you to create the life your heart and soul desires.

Over the past 17 years, I've had the honor of knowing (and living with, working with and being in sacred partnership) with one of the wisest people I know when it comes to relationships and how people work and don't work within them... my soul partner, Noah Martin, and man who has helped many women, men and couples get clear on their dreams, strengthen their connection, change their roles and open to more love.

So I've invited Noah to join us for this Feminine Power Time with me Christine Arylo, Dream Partnerships: Creating a Relationship Where Both People Thrive. I like to invite Noah to join us every so often to share a man's point of view and truthfully straight up good practical wisdom on relationships.

We can't talk about Feminine Power and Feminine Leadership if we also don't talk about relationship, because our relationships have a huge impact on our ability to have the impact we desire, do our sacred work and be supported along the way. Here's what we dive into...  

  • What is 'dreaming' really and why is it essential to any great partnership - couples who dream together grow together. 
  • How do you create conversations to come up with a shared dream? And what if your partner is resistant to talking about such things?
  • Why so many couples struggle or get stuck in the mundaneness of life - and how having a personal and collective dream shifts that. 

  • How to identify the poles and roles you can play into that cause one person to feel like they are sacrificing themselves for the other, and how to NOT do that.

Dreams are the fuel that allows you to live your life in connection and joy, even when stuff gets hard. 

To learn more about the Dream Partnership Retreat with Christine and Noah, go to www.DreamPartnershipRetreat.com 

To learn about the 4 Sacred Pillars of Partnership, go to https://events.christinearylo.com/sacred-partnership-livestream/

To learn more about Noah Martin, decision making and relationship advisor and coach, go to www.coachingbynoah.com 

 

 

 

Aug 2, 2018

What you focus on grows. So if you desire more connection, love, support, community, and sisterhood tune in! You can’t just leave your relationships – be it intimate partners and family, sisterhood or community – up to chance. Self-empowered people choose to intentionally cultivate and harvest the relationships they desire, in their work and personal life.

in #3 of our Feminine Power Time series on Self Love & Relationships, “Harvest More of What You Desire in Your Relationships by Years End!” Christine Arylo, feminine leadership and wisdom advisor, invites you to join her for an exploration focused on: 

  • “What do you desire to harvest more of in your relationships this year?” so that by the end of the year you are experiencing in your real life these relationships
  • Getting to the heart of what you desire vs getting stuck in your mental pictures or stopped by your fear of being hurt, being vulnerable, being rejected, etc.
  • Gaining clarity on what you desire in the 3 major realms of relationship – your ‘anam caras’ (beloveds), your sisterhood and your community (global and local)|
  • Taking small but mighty action to harvest these relationships, using the Feminine Super Power of Intention and the Feminine Super Power of Focus
  • How to articulate what you desire in relationship most powerfully so you can magnetize the people and relationships you truly desire, that will support you now in your life

 

If you don’t pause to ask your heart who you desire to be in relationship with and how you desire your current and new relationships to feel, you are missing the power and potential.

 

Feminine wisdom teaches us:

Be clear about what you desire to harvest and then focus your energy, time and resources there.

This will yield the most impactful results.

(you'll create the love, connection, support, community you desire)

 

 

**To the inquiries that Christine Arylo talks about in this Feminine Power Time, go to www.ChristineARylo.com/podcast

 

**To stay connected with Christine, subscribe to her weekly Wisdom Letters at ChristineArylo.com AND receive the free Feminine Super Power Kit for elevating out of Overwhelm.

 

 

 

 

Jul 21, 2018

When we lose a relationship with a person we once loved and cared for - be it a friend, a beloved, a relative - it hurts. From death to divorces, breakups with romantic partners or friends, our hearts suffer, they 'break open' because of this loss. And we stand at a choice pointwill we use this change as a catalyst to open our hearts to more love and to become even stronger and more fully expressed and empowered beings... or we will we close off, contract, protect or stuff down the feelings and so have to keep receiving the spiritual curriculum again and again?

In the 2nd of our 3 part series on Relationship and Self Love, join me Christine Arylo for this Feminine Power Time: "Transforming Relationship Heartbreak into Personal Catalysts" I've invited a special  guest, Kristine Carlson, NY Times Best Selling Author of the new book, From Heartbreak to Wholeness.

A dear friend who is also a true wisdom teacher and woman who has lived what she shares, Kris and I invite you for this intimate conversation and a deep dive into how in the midst of relationship heartbreak and change, you can:

  • Work with your relationship changes, challenges and loss as catalyst for your spiritual and personal growth - and not miss the gift the grief, loss and change has to give you. It sounds trite, but this is REALLY super power if you understand how to work with the grief. 

  • Support yourself to move through the physical and emotional stress - so you can stay strong and stay present through the shift. We have to move the stress and emotion through our bodies, but how and what does that mean?

  • Heal, feel with your heart through this without getting dragged into the  - how do you stay present to the feelings and emotions and also not have your whole life and mind taken over by the loss of this relationship? 

  • Learn more about YOU and what you desire, who you are and what your soul is calling you towards - how do you desire to use this catalyst to co-create the next phase of your life from a place of self love and self empowerment? 

  • Use this catalyst to become more whole within yourself and strengthen your 'sovereignty' - so the relationships you choose going forward come from your wholeness not your woundedness and so you really meet the curriculum of your spiritual path through this relationship.  

To get a copy of Kris' new book: From Heartbreak to Wholeness: The Hero's Journey to Joy - you can get it on Amazon.com here. 

To download the Soul Mantra meditations from Kristine Carlson go to www.FromHeartbreaktoWholeness.com

To go deeper on your self love and relationship journey, learn more about the Choosing ME Before WE 40-day practice at www.ChoosingMEBeforeWe.com    

Jul 12, 2018

I have met so many smart women, and have been one myself, who can show up strong and capable in their work, and for their friends and family, and even appear to be happy and physically healthy, but when it comes to their relationships, the make unhealthy, sabotaging sometimes even toxic choices for themselves. 

  • Why do we stay in and choose unhealthy relationships? 

  • Why do smart people who are successful at work, good people to their families and friends struggle when it comes to their love life?
  • Why does a person keep making the same bad choices and mistakes in who they choose as romantic partners or friends?

The short answer - at the root of all relationship settling, self sacrifice and self sabotage is a lack of self love. 

I know this because I've lived it, watched too many friends go through it and watch their children make the same mistakes. We get trained in math and reading, but not in love and relationship, which has so much more of an impact on how our lives turn out, yes?

I wrote my first book Choosing ME Before WE, left my corporate job and founded the Path of Self Love School because this wisdom it not being taught or lived and too many women, girls, men and boys suffer because of it. 

Nothing will derail the success and wellness, and our capacity to be  leaders than unhealthy, toxic relationships. 

Whether you are currently struggling in your relationships (or lack of) or someone you love is or you have children or young people you influence, join me...

Christine Arylo, for this Feminine Power Time: 
Why Smart Women Choose Bad Relationships: Stop Settling, Sacrificing and Sabotaging Yourself for Love.
It's part 1 in a 3 part series I'm calling A Summer of Love :)

Here's what we will dive into:

  • Why do smart women and men choose harmful relationships, or settle and sacrifice themselves for love?
  • What does a lack of self love look like in a relationship and how do you know you are lacking it?
  • Love Cracks - the unconscious holes in our heart we stuff other people into 
  • Self Honesty - why we run from it and why it's the first step to freedom and creating the relationships we desire 
  • Self Respect and Honor - how we strengthen this so we only have relationships that respect and honor us.

There is so much to share! 

If you'd like to dive in deeper:

1. Join me for the annual Choosing ME Before WE summer of self love practice - start anytime in July - www.ChoosingMEbeforeWe.com

2. Check out the Choosing ME Before WE Book - www.theselflovebooks.com 

If you would like to teach self love or guide others in self love, consider joining our Self Love Guide training which starts in September www.SelfLoveGuides.com 

 

Oct 23, 2017

We need sisterhood more than ever. Not just one friend or one group of women we relate to - but multiple 'circles' of women
 with different levels of intimacy, relationship, and connection that can be there with us and for us as we navigate through the intense and uncertain world we live in. 

Cultivating strong circles of sisterhood are our life saving devices during these intense and uncertain times.

With strong circles and connection to circles of other women -
that we are part of consistently, that we can reach out to in times of crisis or challenge, that know us, hold us and love us unconditionally- we can weather any storm that comes our way AND we gain the strength, courage and compassion to stretch in all the ways we are being called to grow and change.

Join Christine Arylo, feminine leadership advisor and wisdom teacher, and Shasta Nelson, friendship expert, for an illuminating and thought provoking conversation and exploration that includes: 

  • How can you strengthen your circle of sisterhood?

  • Female health fact that might surprise you + the difference between BELONGING and CONNECTING

  • Why friendships don't just happen - get more conscious about the ingredients and actions for calling in + deepening your female connections

  • The 3 components all friendships need to thrive 

  • Why all friendships don't progress to deeper connections + how to tell which ones have the potential for growth

  • What to do when you are feeling a 'sisterhood deficit'?

  • What you desire NOW to strengthen your sisterhood connections?

To learn more about creating gatherings/circles/programs that create connection and transformation for women - check out www.TheArtofSacredCircle.com - a training and creative incubator that starts Nov 9th with Christine Arylo and featuring Shasta Nelson. 

To read the full blog that goes with this episode go to http://christinearylo.com/2017/10/cultivating-circles-of-sisterhood/

 

Oct 8, 2017

On the eve of my 12th wedding anniversary, I invited my life partner Noah Martin to join us for an intimate, real and illuminating conversation on what the heck is going on in the dynamics between women and men who are in partnership? 

I've been talking with so many of the women I work with and hearing the same things...  

* Strong women exhausted from being the major money maker or care taker and tired of holding this role, but don't see another way

* Men who are good men but who can't seem to find their path and purpose or drive, or men who are driven but can't open up emotionally

* So many men who seem isolated, and are trying to figure it out without the support and brotherhood they need (and failing) - and their partners who are tired of trying to support them to get support.

* Couples where both people aren't totally happy with their 'roles' but don't know how to get out of them and create a new reality for their partnership 

* Single women who desire partnership but can't seem to find a 'good man' who is open to growing with them spiritually, together, and also has his sovereignty in tact. 

In this episode of Feminine Power Time, Noah and I sat at our kitchen table - a table made from a temple door from Indonesia, and opened the portal to share our experience in the way these same dynamics play out for us, what we have learned, how we have continued to create a partnership where we both can thrive, and some insight into why the way we are in relationship is calling for an upgrade and new ways. 

** We also share our "Love Treaty" - our agreements for when we fight, how we operate in our partnership, and how we use conflict to create more possibility for us both. Go here to get a copy www.TheLoveTreaty.com 

** Noah Martin is a trained relationship advisor with a masters degree is Spiritual Psychology, and a former economic analyst and risk assessor who helps couples navigate their big life decisions and work together to create dream partnerships where both people thrive. Noah works individually with couples and individuals. Contact him at Noah@DreamPartnerships.com   

Aug 3, 2017

YOU DESERVE TO BE AND FEEL SUPPORTED... press pause on the outside world and let's get you the support you need (it's not weak to need support, it's stupid not to know what you need and ask for it and then use your Feminine Power to co-create it.) 

Reality: Women operate like banks who only give withdrawls -we give and give support but we don't RECEIVE the support we need, in our work and families to keep us healthy and well taken care of. Then we get sick or frustrated, feel exhausted and overwhelmed and begin to resent the things we love the most. And the hard truth is, we do it to ourselves.

Hard Truth: We don't ask for the support we NEED and REQUIRE. Instead we sacrifice ourselves and our health, we sabotage ourselves, and we settle - and this is so not self loving or feminine power. 

In this week's Feminine Power Time, I, Christine Arylo, invite you to join me and women and good men around the world to take a stand for getting the support you need so you can FEEL and BE supported in your work, your relationships and your health, wealth and home. Dive in with me as we explore:

  • The signs that you are NOT getting the support you really do NEED - feeling stretched, stressed, stuck? 
  • Why it's so hard to receive the support you need - and why the reasons you think are not the reasons you're blocking the support 
  • The faulty programming we've been imprinted with that makes you believe you should be able to figure things out on your own, and why that keeps you from your heart and souls desires
  • Your life now - tap into your inner wisdom to illuminate where you are not supported now... and what is needed to feel supported  
  • How your brain can sabotage you to stay stuck and stressed in not feeling supported
  • Feminine Wisdom for getting support when money and time feel lean

Go deeper into how to Stay Strong and True To Yourself in Uncertain & Intense Times - attend this free Feminine Wisdom Session with Christine Arylo - RSVP www.FeminineWisdomSession.com 

Take a Wisdom Quest - 4 days to tap in and illuminate the path ahead - Fall 2017 - details here.

Path of Self Love Training & Certification Program - Reforming Inner Mean Girls. Empowering the Inner Wisdom. www.SelfLoveTraining.com 

Jul 27, 2017
Our beautiful, loving, open hearts have at one time or another been tromped on, broken or betrayed and so our normal, and probably necessary action at the time, was to build walls, force "fields, layers of protection around our hearts… resulting in us creating stories and sabotaging patterns that make us work harder than needed, make us
feel lonely, disconnected and like the world is on our shoulders, and keep us from the loving, respectful vibrant partnerships, friendships, families and work relationships we desire.
 
No matter how powerful, self confident or externally successful most people block the love – support, recognition, joy, connection, intimacy and fun – they crave.
 
In this feminine power time podcast, Christine Arylo for an illuminating conversation to explore:
  • Signs you are blocking love and support and connect
  • Why all people create blocks to love and support and connection
  • Reveal your specific ‘love cracks’
  • How to identify what strategies you’ve put into place to protect yourself but as a result are sabotaging yourself
  • Simple but mighty practices for expanding your capacity to receive and give love, support, connection, intimacy and joy
To go deeper, check out the 40 Day Choosing ME Before We practice at
 
And for more on self love visit www.PathofSelfLove.org 
 

 

May 4, 2017

We need sisterhood. And I don't use that word 'need' lightly. But in this case it is true. We need the support, love, care, witnessing that can only come from another woman. 

Even women who have amazing supportive partnerships with a beloved need sisterhood. There is just something about the feminine bond that our hearts crave, our souls blossom from and our bodies and minds relax in. We know this. Yet...

Why is it so hard for us to cultivate the sisterhood we need?

And why does the space for it often get put last on the list?

Creating soulful connections with other women is essential yet most of us were not taught HOW to cultivate the intimate connections we need to thrive. And as our guest Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and one of my dear soul sisters, reports after studying female relationships for over a decade, Friendships Don't Just Happen. 

Tune into this episode of Feminine Power Time - # 3 in a 4 part series on our Feminine Bonds - with feminine leadership advisor and spiritual catalyst Christine Arylo and her special guest, Shasta Nelson, founder of Girlfriend Circles and friendship expert and dive into: 

  • How can you strengthen your circle of sisterhood?
  • Female health fact that might surprise you + the difference between BELONGING and CONNECTING

  • Why friendships don't just happen - get more conscious about the ingredients and actions for calling in + deepening your female connections

  • The 3 components all friendships need to thrive 

  • Why all friendships don't progress to deeper connections + how to tell which ones have the potential for growth

  • What to do when you are feeling a 'sisterhood deficit'?

  • What you desire NOW to strengthen your sisterhood connections?

To learn more about Shasta Nelson, and Girlfriend Circles go to www.ShastaNelson.com 

To amp up your sisterhood connection, join Christine Arylo at a women's retreat this year - www.ChristineArylo.com 

Apr 27, 2017

Our strength as women has always come from our bonds to the women in our lives. When the bonds are strong, it's like we feel connected to a timeless unbreakable rope that keeps us safe and strong no matter the storm and we can do and face anything. 

Yet sisterhood, true sisterhood is anything but easy.

I've seen and experienced myself the carnage that can come through the wounds our relationships with other women can cause, even from truly conscious women.

Blame. Betrayal. Competition. Cliques. Cutting Off. Maybe you can relate?

Collectively, sisterhood has also been at the root of all the great risings of feminine power, and the tears in the fabric of the sisterhood have dismantled and weakened these feminine risings, slowing the momentum. 

Tune in this special Feminine Power Time Salon, with Christine Arylo and special female leaders spanning 3 generation and 3 continents, as we explore: 

* How the shadow in female relationships and pressure from outside systems weakened the feminine movement of the 1960's and 70s's and caused the momentum to wane (so we don't repeat the pattern) 

* The ABCs of Sisterhood that weaken and destroy our bonds - from Accusation to Blame and Betrayal to Competition and Collusion. Why it happens, the truth of how it harms the feminine heart, and what we can do instead. 

* Where and how we as women are unconscious to how the outside systems and our own internal systems use the shadow of the feminine to weaken our bonds

* How to heal the past wounds of betrayal, blame, separation or isolation - within your own heart and for the collective 

* How we can work with these shadow qualities of sisterhood when they show up in our friendships and communities

 

To experience transforming the ABC's of Sisterhood in your own heart - you can join Christine Arylo and Shiloh Sophia McCloud for the "Wise Woman Out of Exile" transformational workshop - virtually from your home. Go to www.FeminineUnbound.com  

To receive the Feminine Super Power Kit with meditations and daily practices, go to www.ChristineArylo.com 

About Feminine Power Time Salons - The salon format is one that allows for us to bring a specific topic to dive into with a group of women who bring different perspectives and thoughts with the intention of provoking new thought, invoking deeper feelings, illuminating wisdom and elevating the conversation and consciousness for ourselves and each other. They run longer than regular Feminine Power Times and you can tune in and participate all at one time or listen in and return. 

 

Aug 11, 2016

As part of our series on Cultivating a Field of Love in all of our relationships, I thought we needed to get real and deep about our female friendships. Our interactions with other women are one of the main places we either strengthen our feminine power or give it away, or worse, revert to the shadow of feminine power and use tactics like manipulation, colluding, gossip, blame and guilt or just cut off people all together.

Most of us didn't get training on how to show up in our female relationships from a place of courageous love, to both ask for what we need + use conflict, hurt feelings, disappointment and the hard stuff to create stronger connections with the women in our lives. 

For this episode of Feminine Power Time I invited a woman who I have been deepening and growing my friendship with for about 9 years, who also just happens to be a leading expert on friendship and women's relationships. Her name is Shasta Nelson, and we invite you to join us to explore:    

1. How to navigate conflict with a friend when your feelings get hurt, or she hurts you

2. How to set right expectations for different levels of intimacy and vulnerability 

3. How to know when a friendship is one to grow or one to let go and how to do both.

We'll share some super power tools you can use in your friendships right away + as always we end with a meditation to tap into your heart to see what friendships inside your life are ready to grow and which maybe time to let go. 

 

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Here's a little about Shasta.. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsShe also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show. 

Aug 4, 2016

Conflict. Disagreements. Challenges in a relationship. How do you show up in your power AND keep an open heart when you are mad, hurt, disappointed or in conflict with another person? What does Feminine Power look like when really you just want to scream, blame, or make yourself right? Or maybe even avoid the challenging situation in a relationship all together?

Join Christine Arylo and a special guest, her partner in love and life and business, Noah Martin, as we explore and share how to stay in your centered power without decimating another, destroying the Field between you, creating drama and drain, or disappearing or selling yourself out. 

We'll share the "6 Fear Reactors" with you - the unconscious ways that you react in challenges with others that create chaos instead of connection.

And share with you how we use the power of conflict to create more connection between us - so you can use these 'super power tools' in your relationships too.

For more, join us for "Cultivating a Field of Love: Create the Supportive, Respectful Relationships + World You Desire" at www.CultivatingaFieldofLove.com"

And for a copy of the Love Treaty that saves us from so many destructive fights and supports us to create conflict that connects, go to www.TheLoveTreaty.com  

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