Driving, striving, grinding is not the only way to succeed, achieve and live. Pushing to deadlines - ours and others - that make us sick and stressed out is not the only way to be productive and get stuff done. It’s just how we’ve be trained to work, nose to the grindstone, climbing mountains, giving it our all until there’s nothing left.

But what if there was a different way? A wise way? One that created realties in which what really mattered got done … where we had space to breathe and savor our efforts and every day lives … where people were treated as human beings not machines ... and we motivated ourselves by energized inspiration instead of toxic pressure?

This reality is not a fairy tale. It is a possibility. It is a perspective shift on productivity that empowers you to redefine success.

And it is a practice - one that if you are brave enough to implement it in your work, career, projects, relationships and expectations will lead you to a lot more freedom, fulfillment and impact, because you are focused on the right things in the right timing … aka you are working in the flow vs. pushing forward ignoring the signs.

In this episode of Feminine Power Time with feminine leadership advisor Christine Arylo, #147 Pace Don’t Push: A Wiser Way to Achieve & Succeed, take an exhale and prepare to release the unnecessary pressure you’ve been feeling from others, or putting on yourself.

And then go into your life and start putting PACE DON'T PUSH into practice in your every day choices. Expect resistance. Expect fear. Move forward anyway, in the flow, vs forcing your way through.

Here’s some of what we’ll dive in

• How do you tell the difference between pushing that tears and pulling that stretches
• What pushing feels like when you are wasting energy, time and money or trying to do things too fast
• Why do we push instead of pausing ?
• Why are we scared and resistant to resetting deadlines? Or moving delivery dates?

And at the end of the podcast I will lead you through a visualization to:

• Reveal where you might be pushing and wasting your life force and resources.
• Give you a practice that will help you stop the push, find the pace of grace and work in the flow     

I am so looking forward to having this conversation with you.

See you there.

With great heart,

Christine 

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Do it on your app or go to Feminine Power Time on itunes. This is the feminine way - we share and together we rise. 

p.p.s. Stay tuned for announcement for the Spring Overwhelmed and Over It experience. 

It is way too easy to overgive and overcompensate in our work and relationships and then get overwhelmed and distracted, and diminish our impact, and worse, deplete ourselves. Especially in these intense and changing times.

Which is why we are doing this series in Feminine Power Time on powerful inquiries to ask yourself for 2020 beyond, so you can stay centered, calm and clear... focused on what matters. 

This specific inquiry is at the root of feminine leadership - it's all about taking a stand for your self-sustainability and for giving and receiving in harmony in our work and relationships. It's also about feminine power and making a greater impact in your work and within the lives of those you love and lead.

When you know your part in your work you not only become more effective, you affect greater, lasting change.

When you know your part in your relationships, you stop over giving and feeling like you have to do it all or you are failing at doing it all. You embrace that you are one person in a constellation of people and support that collectively cares for others. WOW the spaciousness and lack of guilt that happens when you really embrace this.

This is also about purpose - when you can name your part to play in this bigger world, you too stop feeling like you are not enough or not doing enough because you see how you are making a difference in what is yours to do. 

#StayFocusedOnYourPart - that's the self-sustainability stand.

As leaders, we apply this stand to three realms of our lives - our work, our relationships and our physical foundation of health/wealth/home 

In this session, I'll share more about

• what staying focused on your part means - and how it's essential to doing meaningful work, growing your work or business, not taking on too much, and gaining the power to say NO I can't without guilt
•  why we have such a hard time not taking it all on whether it's at work or in our relationships
• how to get an upgrade in who you work for so you can stop feeling so pressured and start receiving the support you need... and trust that others will too
• honing in on your super powers so you can get clear on your part in the world, in your work and in your relationships. 

At the end of the session, I'll walk you through a personal meditation and visualization to help you get clear on what your part is and what you part is not in the 3 realms of your whole life .... and then take a stand to stay focused on your part this year 

This is preventative burnout and overwhelm care. It's self empowerment. It's feminine leadership. It's wise. 

I look forward to diving in with you!

If you missed Powerful Inquiry #1 - What is Holding Me? from last episode, make sure to tune in. And stay tuned next week for #3 inquiry. 

big heart

Christine

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Mark Your Calendars - Save the Date - and Upcoming Programs 

Self Love Day Circle - Feb 13th - Beyond Self Care: Taking a Stand for Self Sustainability 

A Year of Self Love - Embodying Self Love - Opens Feb 13th. 

Path of Self Love Training and Mastery Program - Starts March 3rd

Upcoming Retreats

Fierce Grace Feminine Leadership Weekend - Power. Presence. Purpose.  May 2020

I would love more time! I wish I had more time! Oh, if I only had more time. I feel like I don't have enough time to do it all. Most of us feel the pressure of not enough time a lot. Our society thrives on time pressure, although you and I do not. While there are lots of ways timelines and deadlines get imposed on us that we don't have control over. There are many ways that you are creating your own stress and lack of time - which you can change and control. Obligation. Guilt. Worry. Over Efforting. That's where we dive in!

My mission in this Feminine Power Time podcast: Time Sucks & Time Stealers: 3 Ways to Stop Wasting Your Time SO You Have the Space for What Matters is to give you three very specific things to watch out for in the way you are making your choices that could be robbing time from you. Making you feel like you don't have enough time ... and filling up your time so you are busy doing too much... stealing time from what matters to you.

My intention is that you'll be able to identify these 3 time stealers and then use the practices and wisdom inquiries I share to make different choices ... to do the last part of this year differently, including the holidays, how you focus in your career/business, how you make sure there is space for what really matters to you. 

Here's what we will dive into:

• The 3 Time Suckers - Obligation, Guilt, Worry (and over efforting).
• How to tell when you are wasting time or letting your time get sucked away from you
• Why guilt is an inappropriate emotion for almost all the ways in which you feel guilty - and what to do about it
• How to stop acting from obligation and get clear on what you want to do and give
• How to give the right amount of time, energy and effort to a project or person
• And more.. 

Here are the Wisdom Inquiries from the show:

OBLIGATION
- What do I want to give? What is in alignment to give?

GUILT

- What am I afraid of? 
- What don't I want to deal with? 
- What do I want?

WORRY & OVER EFFORTING

- What is needed now?  

Here is one thing you can do to support this show and the women you love and influence: 

SHARE * RATE * REVIEW 

thank you! 

And here are upcoming events, retreats and programs. 

Free Feminine Wisdom Sessions

10/30: CRAZY WISDOM: Conjuring up Clarity, Courage, & Calm in Intense and Changing Times. 

 Virtual, attend live or get the recording. Save the Date.

12/19: Year End Reflection Ritual and Power Pause - 5:30 pm PT. Save the Date.

Programs

Feminine Wisdom Way 2020 - Vision, Live, Lead and Succeed in the Way Women Work Best - opens Nov 13th. Go to www.FeminineWisdomWay.com 

Elevate Feminine Leadership 9-month Immersion and Incubator. Starts Jan 2020, Applications start in Nov. Email Christine@Arylo.com for more info.

Retreats

Sacred Rebel. Sacred Work. Wisdom Quest. Nov 7-10th. www.WomensWisdomQuest.com